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new channel for venting
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 02/08/2023 10:47 AM
Love the title
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 02/08/2023 10:48 AM
no one better tell me i need a therapist 🙏
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oh god i hate when people do that, it's so ableist and ignores so many structural issues
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pisses me the fuck off
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pickles- they/them (mel) 02/08/2023 10:49 AM
Virtual, trans led support space tonight at 6. Vent, practice testimony, get updates. Register first bit.Ly/tellyourstorysc [ID: graphics on a a colorful rainbow spectrum background. There is a white WREN logo in the top left corner and the SC United for Justice and Equality logo in the bottom left corner. Stylized text reads, “Support For Advocates Weds 2.8.23.” Inside a smart phone graphic, white text reads, “Every other Wednesday at 6p. Reflect, connect, practice testimony.” The registration link at the bottom says, “Register at bit.ly/tellyourstorysc”]
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do you want to post about this in #announcements too?
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we can make an event
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pickles- they/them (mel) 02/08/2023 10:50 AM
Sure!
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I’m so not used to actually being welcomed or liked that when I joined a club at college or when I joined a server and everyone started saying hi to me I couldn’t bring myself to words (edited)
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
no one better tell me i need a therapist 🙏
Matt Cox he/him 02/08/2023 1:04 PM
You need a….
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….Revolution
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Hayden (he/they) 02/08/2023 1:04 PM
Might organize another fire party at mine in the next month
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Everyone got to write something down and throw it in the fire
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 02/08/2023 1:13 PM
that would be cool
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my dad just went on some long-ass transphobic rant because of how apple changed an emoji or some shit
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he then proceeded to flip his shit over the Grammy’s like every other christofascist good ‘ol boy because of “muh satanic imagery” and “they’re pushing satanic images through the TV through commercials”
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I can’t stand living in this household sometimes
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and what’s worse is that my mom, someone who “supports” her trans cousin and nephew, AGREES that “the media is pushing a satanic agenda”
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Matt Cox he/him 02/09/2023 7:31 PM
with friends like these...
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…I need a Revolution.
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Matt Cox he/him 02/09/2023 7:31 PM
I like you.
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seb it/they 02/09/2023 7:51 PM
If you ever need to get out of your house or any material support please say something here
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I'm sure there are tons of folx who would help you out
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Hayden (he/they) 02/09/2023 7:54 PM
Even if its just for a day or afternoon
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seb it/they
I'm sure there are tons of folx who would help you out
I’ll think about it. I’ve been meaning to meet more people and get out more, but I just don’t know a lot of people I can trust outside of College (edited)
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Nico (she/her) 02/11/2023 5:23 PM
My job has me out in the rain and cold, like we got so many signatures at Soda city, should've just gone home after that
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Like I'm gonna be real with u environment america, no one wants to sign a petition when it's raining out
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my life is just pain increasing over time
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cryborg
my life is just pain increasing over time
THE Greg Green 02/17/2023 12:30 AM
Completely understand
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Camryn Aisling 02/21/2023 1:09 PM
Bleh, covid tests are negative, but I'm sick
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WhichWitch17 02/21/2023 1:10 PM
i had a sinus infection recently, its awful
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Camryn Aisling 02/21/2023 1:11 PM
No fever, but aches, chills, and sinus pressure
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WhichWitch17 02/21/2023 1:14 PM
sorry friend, that sucks
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Camryn Aisling 02/21/2023 1:18 PM
Yeah kitcri
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seb it/they 02/21/2023 1:18 PM
If you need anything let us know
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Camryn Aisling 02/21/2023 1:21 PM
Thanks, I'll keep that in mind
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i want to play roblox
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Nico (she/her) 02/21/2023 4:24 PM
I tried logging into my old roblox account but forgot the password so I got locked out of it 😔
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not that kind
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Nico (she/her) 02/21/2023 4:44 PM
Oh, I don't know of any other kind
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i had a doctors visit today. everything mostly went well, except they ran my insurance 4 times and it kept saying i wasnt covered. i called bcbs about it, and they say i am covered ;-;
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after some back and forth between bcbs, peba, and the doctors office i figured out the "problem". they ran my insurance with female gender marker
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cool, huh? i pass, dope. no not cool. bc i havent updated that legally and now i have to pay out of pocket (not an option) or out myself to my ent doctor
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ughhhh
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they wont change it on the insurance side w/o an amended birth certificate, they wont amend my birth certificate w/o a court order, and the judge told me i had to have had "the surgery" to get that
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i hate it here
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seb it/they 02/22/2023 3:59 PM
I'm so sorry Jacklyn
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Hayden (he/they) 02/22/2023 4:04 PM
Acab includes blue cross blue shield of sc
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seb it/they 02/22/2023 4:04 PM
If you need help affording the bill let me know, i can contribute a bit (not much bc I'm broke as fuck)
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thanks
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im just going to tell them to run it as male : (
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fuck me
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im sorry jacklyn
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robin (they/it) 02/23/2023 7:56 PM
CW: mental health issues and doctors next week i have to go to the doctor and they are going to have to refer me to a psychiatrist because my mental problems are too hard to solve and they are done trying. and apparently i am immune to medicine or something. ive gone to a psychiatrist before but i had to stop going to him because i told him i was suicidal and he was like "youll be fine." im just frustrated that i have to keep bouncing around to various different doctors all the time (ive been to 4 since the beginning of the school year for the same issue). im also scared. ive had a lot of bad experiences with doctors and they dont tend to listen to me. there is just a lot of things wrong with my brain and each time i get put on a medication the medication does not work the way that is expected. im scared they are going to put me on a medication that turns me into a zombie or they are not going to listen to the problems i am facing. the situation im in mentally is not sustainable long term and i dont know if doctors get that or really understand whats happening.
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cade (he/him) 02/23/2023 8:36 PM
know that you always ofc have a lot of ppl to talk to here, and for what it’s worth my dms are open if you ever need anything, even just someone to talk to and listen ❤️
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seb it/they 02/23/2023 9:05 PM
I've had pretty considerable experience being chewed up and spit out by our mental health care system, it's incredibly brutal, dehumanizing and scary, and I'm really really sorry it's happening to you
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If you need anything feel free to say stuff here or also dm me as well
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robin (they/it) 02/23/2023 9:11 PM
im especially worried because it has taken so long to get my anxiety under control and that is pretty common. when they have to start looking at the more obscure issues ... things might go south
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seb it/they 02/23/2023 9:11 PM
Yeah that's what I ran into
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There are literally no providers in the state of south Carolina who can treat my condition that don't have terrible wait-lists
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robin (they/it) 02/23/2023 9:14 PM
my doctors right now are in atlanta and i want to keep it that way because if i end up having to drop out or something because of continued issues i will have to live with my parents and i want everything to be close to there and i work really well with telehealth.
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seb it/they 02/23/2023 9:15 PM
Unfortunately due to insurance reasons i can't do telehealth ;-;
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robin (they/it) 02/23/2023 9:15 PM
understandable
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seb it/they
If you need anything feel free to say stuff here or also dm me as well
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 02/23/2023 9:19 PM
ill ditto this
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Got plastered last night and got into a heated argument with my brother over gender issues and eventually came out to him curled up in a ball crying and yelling
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He previously said queer people were disgusting, but “it’s their business not mine” and that he won’t actively go out of his way to fuck with them not that it matters, this dude actively chucks out racial slurs and shit
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I’m scared
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Is there anything you need right now friend?
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buncho
I’m scared
Matt Cox he/him 02/26/2023 1:21 PM
Are you scared he is going to attack you? Are you safe where you are?
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Matt Cox he/him
Are you scared he is going to attack you? Are you safe where you are?
I’m not sure
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He said he wouldn’t hurt me that night, and that despite it he was my brother etc, but I’m more afraid of him losing it or getting it to my dad
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Matt Cox he/him 02/26/2023 1:23 PM
You live at home?
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I don’t really have many options to leave this town either, dip out
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Matt Cox he/him 02/26/2023 1:27 PM
"won't actively go out of my way" what a prince
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Cyprus
Is there anything you need right now friend?
Options, that’s what I need rn
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just safe ways I can get out of this town or places I can go to be safe in case shit gets bad
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 1:43 PM
do you mind letting us know what area you are in?
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 1:53 PM
i think both of those things are very realistic for us to coordinate if you need transheart
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 02/26/2023 1:54 PM
yeah, ive got space for people
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seb it/they
do you mind letting us know what area you are in?
Florence
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:05 PM
you're over 18 right?
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:09 PM
what's the situation like now?
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so far, not much
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Right now it’s alright, I’m more worried about my brother telling someone or hurting me later on
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:15 PM
yeah that makes sense
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do you need like emotional support? or would planning/figuring out what you would do in that situation be more helpful?
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Right now I think just need the former, yeah
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but if you know any resources that I can go to I’d appreciate it
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:22 PM
sounds like you had a really scary and horrible night
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i'm really sorry your brother was so horrible to you
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seb it/they
i'm really sorry your brother was so horrible to you
He didn’t hurt me or anything, even helped me into bed and got me a bucket in case i puked. It’s not that he’s a terrible person, he’s just had machismo and that rhetoric that’s so prevalent in the South shoved down his throat for virtually his entire lifetime. I tried to tell him, he just wouldn’t listen
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:29 PM
yeah still, even if its not physical violence, transphobia like that is definitely violence
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it sounds like he made you feel really unsafe
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He may not hurt me, sure, but somehow that just makes it worse: the fact you care for someone, willing to accept them for who they are, but if you lay your entire self out they’ll never see you as fully human
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seb it/they
it sounds like he made you feel really unsafe
He did.
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:31 PM
yeah you definately do not deserve to be made feel unsafe like that
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you should be able to be out to your family without feeling unsafe
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I wish I could. Really do.
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:32 PM
yeah i'm really sorry you can't
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Really I wish shit like this never happened at all
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 2:35 PM
yeah me too
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That nobody’d have to run from home because their parents wouldn’t accept them, nobody’d have to hide in their room because of who they are, that nobody’d have to watch their backs every moment they’re outside their own four walls
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Why must people suffer for not fitting a worldview that’s been forced upon them?
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Arnold Karr 02/26/2023 3:10 PM
I know I'm probably dreaming, but is there a safe house in or around Columbia for vulnerable queer and transgender folk? Would someone be willing to speak to the local Friends/Quakers about the need for such a place?
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 3:12 PM
there's not a "safe house" per say
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but there are several people here who have extra beds and have helped people out in the past
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Arnold Karr
I know I'm probably dreaming, but is there a safe house in or around Columbia for vulnerable queer and transgender folk? Would someone be willing to speak to the local Friends/Quakers about the need for such a place?
do u think that's something your congregation may be receptive to helping with? if so id be more than willing to speak with them about the need (edited)
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Yeah, I’m not a safe house per say but a frequent crash house with space. Dm me
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 3:17 PM
i'm also willing to pick folks up/transport them to a safe place, and feel folks
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i think basically in here we've got all of our based covered re a safe house, but not like in a super formalized way
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jacklyn
do u think that's something your congregation may be receptive to helping with? if so id be more than willing to speak with them about the need (edited)
Arnold Karr 02/26/2023 3:18 PM
I think they would. I don't know if we'd be able to fund it entirely, but we could approach other affirming congregations about a joint effort. The UU and a UCC I know of would likely be on board.
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 3:19 PM
that's awesome
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Arnold Karr 02/26/2023 3:20 PM
Let me find out when the next ministry and nurture committee meeting is and I'll ask if they can put you on the agenda.
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seb it/they 02/26/2023 3:20 PM
also if y'all want to help with that you're more than invited to join the mutual aid meetings
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and also have any other congregation members who are interested in helping join :)
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Arnold Karr
Let me find out when the next ministry and nurture committee meeting is and I'll ask if they can put you on the agenda.
cool thx! please share that date with me and i'll see if i can make it to the meeting
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Arnold Karr 02/26/2023 3:23 PM
Ok
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 02/26/2023 6:52 PM
Tried to dress fem for dinner but the waiters still keep calling me sir : ( (edited)
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robin (they/it) 02/26/2023 6:52 PM
cries
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seb it/they
but there are several people here who have extra beds and have helped people out in the past
yep
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Sasha
Yeah, I’m not a safe house per say but a frequent crash house with space. Dm me
same here. dms are open
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seb it/they 02/27/2023 8:11 AM
I woke up 2 hours late
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ughhh work sucks
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who thought of this shit
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Matt Cox he/him 02/27/2023 5:28 PM
Wuck fork
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WhichWitch17 02/27/2023 5:44 PM
So true. And so tragic
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Bernie
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this the best thing ive seen recently
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Nico (she/her) 02/28/2023 10:41 AM
cw: transphobia Thinking about that time in freshman year when I was taking english 101 and the professor had us debate "if we should give children transitional hormones", thinking back I'm just realizing how fucked up it is that we had to debate the humanity of trans people for the sake of "intellectual discussion" or whatever, like we're a fun little hypothetical question that may or may not deserve to have our humanity recognized
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seb it/they 03/03/2023 3:54 PM
I pinched a nerve in my hand climbing
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It's okay now but it really scared me
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That nobody’d have to run from home because their parents wouldn’t accept them, nobody’d have to hide in their room because of who they are, that nobody’d have to watch their backs every moment they’re outside their own four walls
seb it/they 03/03/2023 5:02 PM
Hey buncho, I just wanted to check on you, are you doing okay? Do you need anything?
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seb it/they
Hey buncho, I just wanted to check on you, are you doing okay? Do you need anything?
I’m doing a bit better now, yeah
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seb it/they 03/03/2023 5:09 PM
Glad to hear it
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Why is this chat available to unverified people
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/05/2023 11:12 PM
i didnt make it dunno
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Cyprus
Why is this chat available to unverified people
Is it just this chat?
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/05/2023 11:21 PM
i fixed it
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newmembers can no longer access this channel
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cade (he/him) 03/05/2023 11:22 PM
thank you athena!
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this doesn't fit any specific CW but i'm spoilering it because you probably don't want to see it if you're venting. I hate people who say things like this.
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seb it/they 03/07/2023 7:12 AM
Oh it's so fucking obnoxious
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Nico (she/her) 03/07/2023 7:12 PM
cw: transphobia one of my coworkers yesterday kept referring to me as "my man" and "dude" despite the fact everyone at my job knows I'm trans, another one kept degendering me :/
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cade (he/him) 03/07/2023 7:21 PM
i’m sorry : ( no one deserves to be disrespected so deliberately like that
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Camryn Aisling 03/11/2023 11:51 AM
CW: cancer One of my pals has been diagnosed with stage III lung cancer. I'm still processing.
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To those who saw my message in #queer-joy I'm actually pretty scared about leaving, my parents don't like the person I'm leaving with and Im scared they might try to harm us as a threat to me so I don't leave. I also feel kinda selfish because I know this is going to hurt my family because I'll basically have to cut them off entirely. I'm debating if I should come out to them as I'm leaving or not, if I do and then I somehow don't get out, it could be very bad. (edited)
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seb it/they 03/11/2023 9:27 PM
it's not selfish to set boundaries with your family
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especially ones that would allow you to be yourself
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if you need any help or support in getting out, just ask
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Thank you so much 💖
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seb it/they 03/11/2023 9:31 PM
i've had experience with cutting off family members, and it's a lot
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once you are out be prepared to need time to grieve and process
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my dms are open if you need 💙
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seb it/they 03/13/2023 1:35 PM
i am having a fucking gross day
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 5:25 PM
not sure if there’s a better channel for this bc i actually do want advice but help my mom is being transphobic
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cw transphobia advice needed she’s talking about me being trans. my big mistakes showing how immature i am are my transition and being out and being me in public. i drafted a message but i don’t want to say something i might regret (edited)
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seb it/they 03/15/2023 5:27 PM
maybe just put advice needed
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 5:27 PM
valid
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seb it/they 03/15/2023 5:28 PM
tbh your message looks good, you are standing up for yourself
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idk how your mom will take it, but it seems truthful
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 5:29 PM
thx
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yea i rly like your msg. its direct and assertive but not inflammatory
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 5:30 PM
im gonna sit on it a bit i think, maybe talk to my one good sister and see what she thinks
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comrade kalia (she/her)
cw transphobia advice needed she’s talking about me being trans. my big mistakes showing how immature i am are my transition and being out and being me in public. i drafted a message but i don’t want to say something i might regret (edited)
James Harley 03/15/2023 5:30 PM
You couldn’t have said it any better from what I’m reading, dress as you, no regrets!
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seb it/they 03/15/2023 5:30 PM
let us know if you need any additional support
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we are here for you 💜
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 5:33 PM
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i love y’all sm
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/15/2023 5:34 PM
we love you too frien : )
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comrade kalia (she/her)
cw transphobia advice needed she’s talking about me being trans. my big mistakes showing how immature i am are my transition and being out and being me in public. i drafted a message but i don’t want to say something i might regret (edited)
Bee(she/they/fae/it) 03/15/2023 5:38 PM
honestly this is probably exactly what you need to tell her, it's your life to live, not her's, you can't let her dictate how to live it
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James Harley 03/15/2023 5:39 PM
Exactly, and you’re an adult, you’re in control of your life, body and what you want to do with it!
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 5:49 PM
update on the advice of my sister i deleted the first sentence and then sent it
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robin (they/it) 03/15/2023 5:50 PM
we are proud !!!
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praying that it goes well for you
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 6:15 PM
cw transphobia update that’s the fastest she’s ever texted me back in my life. anyway did you know that im being immature for being a woman unapologetically. it’s the same as when she was young, obviously, except it’s not 🙄
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and anyway she’s like. objectively wrong too bc this all started with her trying to tell me how to dress for a job interview (see above) and i dressed as myself and got the job
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standing up to your parents can be so heavy I’m sorry you have to deal with this kalia
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 6:16 PM
thank 💜
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it’s not the first time
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cw transphobia fun backstory time but when my parents found out i was dating a non-binary person (he’s a trans man now but at the time he identified as nb) they tried to force me to break up w/ him bc he was trans and “we support them but we don’t bring that into the family” and they did the my house my rules bit and called their bluff. packed up everything I owned into a handful of boxes and left the next morning, and it’s been almost 6 years since and i never went back. being homeless was better than that. i told them i would pack up and leave and my mom literally said “see ya” so whenever she gets all concerned like this i can’t think of anything but that
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that’s so awful, kalia I sincerely wish you the best, and I’m glad you were able to remove yourself from them
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comrade kalia (she/her)
and anyway she’s like. objectively wrong too bc this all started with her trying to tell me how to dress for a job interview (see above) and i dressed as myself and got the job
Bee(she/they/fae/it) 03/15/2023 6:29 PM
wait you're telling me you actively tangibly proved her wrong and she STILL wants to pull this bull?
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comrade kalia (she/her) 03/15/2023 6:31 PM
i only just found out i got the job actually!! i sent her a message after my last one saying “anyway i got the job, thanks for your support”
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seb it/they 03/15/2023 6:38 PM
Fuck yeah :)
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Bee(she/they/fae/it) 03/16/2023 2:23 PM
I've honestly burned through my anger at this situation at this point but I need to ramble on about it anyway my roommate is extremely shitty so, for the start of this situation, this person was being kicked out of her parents' house last year, and one of my partners stepped in telling her "if you can get to SC, we can split an apartment as long as we can bring Bee into the situation, while still splitting the rent and utilities 50/50" this partner had something of a crush on this person, which they seemed to feel extended to me as well. they solicited me for sex on their way through my area at the time, which I wasn't really comfortable with due to their own presentation at the time, and my serious lack of familiarity and trust. they insisted after my explanation on that, to a point of a breach of consent, and they didn't stop until my partner stepped in and told them to please back off after they got into SC, my partner's crush faded, and when explained to them, this person seemed to lash out at both of us about it. I remember multiple conversations where this person talked to me about how "it's not the same as it used to be" and they seemed to blame it on me. there's always been this kind of malice I can pick up from their vibes just because I'm in a relationship with my partner more recently, they've decided to back out of the 50/50 rent situation, justifying it with this idea of us silently banning them from the common space, which we never did, and in fact went to lengths to try to make them feel welcome there, even having evenings spending time with them, often inviting them to watch shows they've gotten abusive towards us, poking at any instance of trauma they can find, even pushing me to seek formal employment despite my trauma-based issues and physical disability due to having broken my arm dramatically before having moved in. the closer we get to the move-out date, the worse she gets
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it's honestly exhausting
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I used to be constantly pissed at her but now I'm just
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tired
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its been 4 fucking years and my mom still doesn’t gender me correctly
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/18/2023 8:56 PM
had a screaming match with my father today because i cant get a job and i messed up an application (edited)
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Nico (she/her) 03/19/2023 12:33 PM
Apparently one of my friends has been misgendering me behind my back, he's also been misgendering his sibling, and of course he's able to use they/them to misgender me but not for his sibling
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cade (he/him) 03/19/2023 12:53 PM
that’s so blatantly disrespectful to use your correct pronouns to your face; but then turn around and basically show how much he doesn’t care?? i’m so sorry
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Nico (she/her) 03/19/2023 12:55 PM
Yeah my brother is going to have a talk with him
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Aw Nico that’s awful I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, do you need anything?
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im so sorry girl : (
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Nico (she/her)
Yeah my brother is going to have a talk with him
thats good your brother is going to talk w him about it, i hope you’re doing okay 🫂
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Aw Nico that’s awful I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, do you need anything?
Nico (she/her) 03/19/2023 1:03 PM
I'm good, it's just shocking that an outwardly "progressive" person would do that
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Nerak1 Dave 03/19/2023 4:09 PM
People sometimes reveal their true nature. It sucks that they happen to be a shitty person. :(.
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seb it/they 03/19/2023 5:27 PM
time to answer this very one sided question for my class :/ very frustrated with my major right now
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that wording…quite odd
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I love “please explain why I’m right” professors, they’re always fun and chill people who take criticism well
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Sam McKenzie 03/22/2023 7:48 PM
Ik everyone is busy so no need to respond, I'm just feeling very frustrated with the school today because no matter what I do, I'm going to be deadnamed both on my diploma and at graduation, and also in the graduation program, and I don't want all of my classmates to hear my deadname and learn it, and it's causing me a lot of stress.
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I also wouldn't be opposed to advice, if anyone has any
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Victor (they/them) 03/22/2023 7:48 PM
Do you go to USC?
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I ask because I dont have a legal name change but was able to get the correct name in the program and graduation from USC Columbia. I can look back in my emails to see who I contacted.
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Sam McKenzie 03/22/2023 7:57 PM
Yes, I do! I'd appreciate that! I've called, emailed, and gone in person, just to be shut down at every turn
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Sam McKenzie
Yes, I do! I'd appreciate that! I've called, emailed, and gone in person, just to be shut down at every turn
Victor (they/them) 03/22/2023 8:21 PM
I'll look through my emails and dm you!
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Sam McKenzie
Ik everyone is busy so no need to respond, I'm just feeling very frustrated with the school today because no matter what I do, I'm going to be deadnamed both on my diploma and at graduation, and also in the graduation program, and I don't want all of my classmates to hear my deadname and learn it, and it's causing me a lot of stress.
Anabelle (She/Her/Hers) 03/23/2023 9:53 AM
i do know someone who does legal name changes for free
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A Queer entrepreneur, CHW, activist. president@taagg.org
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iirc they are helping my friend @lavender on her legal name change. it may not be able to like, be done by graduation but like, if it's something you want to get started on you should reach out to them, and lavender
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Anabelle (She/Her/Hers)
iirc they are helping my friend @lavender on her legal name change. it may not be able to like, be done by graduation but like, if it's something you want to get started on you should reach out to them, and lavender
Nico (she/her) 03/23/2023 10:40 AM
Is that not @Nuubiana
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cade (he/him) 03/23/2023 2:06 PM
a man at my work has a 2020 was rigged hat 😭😭😭
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WHEN WILL THEY LET GO ITS BEEN 3 YEARS
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I think that the year 2020 was rigged
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cade (he/him) 03/23/2023 2:07 PM
also i did not know what channel to put this in
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Not the election it was fine
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But the year itself? they fixed that shit (edited)
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cade (he/him) 03/23/2023 2:07 PM
no seriously smth sinister was in the cards that year
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it was punch after punch
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oh my god he just said he was 16 when he started dating his wife and she was 13…………
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Friendly reminder to not use the vomit emoji with out a spoiler (edited)
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It can trigger real gagging for some people
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robin (they/it) 03/24/2023 8:39 AM
last night evil robin decided it was going to point its rage into further radicalizing my parents (which is good and not that evil) now my mom is asking how she can support oat. evil robin suggested she could give legal advice and insight (shes a federal public defender but she practices mainly in ga) i think she feels like this is not a space for her but still wants to be supportive. what should i tell her to do ?
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seb it/they 03/24/2023 8:40 AM
Tell her to get in here
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Your mom seems cool
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robin (they/it) 03/24/2023 8:41 AM
my mom is pretty poggers
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Can confirm
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seb it/they 03/24/2023 8:41 AM
We need people who can write shit
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If she's a lawyer she definitely can write shit
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Also like we need more parents of queer kiddos
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robin (they/it) 03/24/2023 8:42 AM
my mom has multiple queer children :O
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seb it/they 03/24/2023 8:42 AM
But basically if she wants to be part of this community and can agree to the points of unity she's more than welcome
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robin (they/it) 03/24/2023 8:43 AM
0% success rate at creating straight people
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seb it/they 03/24/2023 8:43 AM
Iconic
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/24/2023 9:21 PM
cw self harm, and bad advice relating to self harm i just watched (virtually) another teacher in the STEM org that im in encourage a student to continue to harm themselves and im so fucking livid i cannot believe people (edited)
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Matt Cox he/him 03/24/2023 9:22 PM
Is there a “beyond fucked” emoji? Cause you’ve found a use for it, lortamercy
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/24/2023 9:23 PM
its pretty bad yeah
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im reporting them via all available means
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robin (they/it) 03/24/2023 9:46 PM
how do report teacher ? because i had a teacher say some racist shit in class last semester . i wrote it in her review at the end of the semester but i dont know what else im supposed to do
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a friend that had her in a different class said she showed self harm scars for a sfx makeup class
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Arnold Karr 03/24/2023 9:48 PM
I'd talk to the academic dean or whatever the equivalent is. There should be a grievance procedure.
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BenjaminIsaac 03/24/2023 9:48 PM
I found this form but I think you can also contact their superiors like the dean
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robin (they/it) 03/24/2023 9:49 PM
thank you
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If you're at USC and don't feel comfortable doing the process of going to a dean or something alone, there are people in the OMSA office who would be more than willing to help
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Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 10:08 AM
Job made a stink about how we're so far behind goal and gotta step it up, today they told us since it looks like we're gonna hit goal they're cutting the last shift before this job ends, and reducing a $300 bonus to $132
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Nico (she/her)
Job made a stink about how we're so far behind goal and gotta step it up, today they told us since it looks like we're gonna hit goal they're cutting the last shift before this job ends, and reducing a $300 bonus to $132
ronnie (he/him) 03/25/2023 10:14 AM
SERIOUSLY???
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Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 10:14 AM
YEAH
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We've all collectively agreed to put no effort in today
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Even Danny who normally goes above and beyond
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ronnie (he/him) 03/25/2023 10:15 AM
Wait did the shift already start
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Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 10:15 AM
Yeah
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ronnie (he/him) 03/25/2023 10:15 AM
I’m so dumb
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Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 10:15 AM
It starts at 9 saturdays
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We're u supposed to coms
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ronnie (he/him) 03/25/2023 10:15 AM
Yeah 😭
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I’ll do my part being a bad employee and come in 2 hours later 😭
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Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 10:16 AM
Ok
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Yeah only half the people showed up on time today
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Nico (she/her)
Even Danny who normally goes above and beyond
Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 3:43 PM
Nevermind, Danny's a fucking scab
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ronnie (he/him) 03/25/2023 3:44 PM
TELL HIM TO STOP
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seb it/they 03/25/2023 8:37 PM
My bread collapsed
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robin (they/it) 03/25/2023 8:37 PM
oh no !
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Toothpicks!
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Hold it up
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robin (they/it) 03/25/2023 8:38 PM
im assuming its still delicious
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Put on gospel music
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Raise it up
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robin (they/it) 03/25/2023 8:38 PM
give it praise
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lift its spirits
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seb it/they 03/25/2023 8:39 PM
It's still delicious it just over proofed and was under kneaded
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Still a masterpiece
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robin (they/it)
lift its spirits
Yesss
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seb it/they 03/25/2023 8:39 PM
Nothing like a steamy little brick to make sandwiches with
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That’s all my gluten free bread so
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I feel that in my bones
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seb it/they 03/25/2023 8:39 PM
Lol I want to try the oat flour gluten free recipes
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Not because I'm gluten intolerant but just because they seem fun
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seb it/they
Lol I want to try the oat flour gluten free recipes
Ugh! I’m actually allergic to oats which is rare (evidently?) but please tell me if it’s good
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I hear Almond flour is best for GF goodies
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But I am terrible at baking
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seb it/they 03/25/2023 8:43 PM
I'm allergic to almond flour lol so I guess we can each stay in our respective lanes on that one ;-;
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What!! Well, shit. The almonds themselves?
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Nico (she/her)
Nevermind, Danny's a fucking scab
Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 9:27 PM
They offered Danny a job as director
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Nico (she/her)
They offered Danny a job as director
robin (they/it) 03/25/2023 9:29 PM
glad or zad ?
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Nico (she/her) 03/25/2023 9:30 PM
I mean it's good he got the job but in the process we all lost a fair bit of money before we're out of a job
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robin (they/it) 03/25/2023 9:30 PM
yay / sorry
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Nico (she/her)
Job made a stink about how we're so far behind goal and gotta step it up, today they told us since it looks like we're gonna hit goal they're cutting the last shift before this job ends, and reducing a $300 bonus to $132
Nico (she/her) 03/26/2023 12:01 PM
Update on the work saga, they are running a shift tomorrow, so more money!
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/26/2023 1:35 PM
i swear my mother has a damn midgendering radar. I'll offhandedly tell her "im hanging out with [james] or [emily] today", and she'll respond with "how is james, is she well?" or "tell emily i hope he has a good day" cw misgendering i have never fucking told her these people are trans, she has never met them, how the fuck does she do this.
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James Harley 03/26/2023 1:43 PM
How the fuck does your mom think someone named James is a woman, I don’t get it!
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James Harley
How the fuck does your mom think someone named James is a woman, I don’t get it!
robin (they/it) 03/26/2023 1:47 PM
i do know a girl named james, but i understand that is not the point of this argument
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James Harley 03/26/2023 1:59 PM
This has to be satire, I can’t wrap my head around that wtf!
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So I tried to move out yesterday, and my parents wouldn't let me leave, wouldn't let me take any of my stuff either, and when I finally came out to them they denied it up and down because "that's not me" they also said the person I'm moving with doesn't really love me and that I'm only trans to make friends... my facade obviously worked too well. I've been in a very upset state since yesterday because of this, they're putting me in christian counciling to "get my priorities straight" and they will be attending with me now, they also will not leave me alone now, they're on top of me out of fear I'll leave again. I just don't know what to do and this is the last time I ever tell them anything about the real me (edited)
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James Harley 03/26/2023 6:28 PM
Goddamn, so sorry to hear, is it okay if I give you some advice?
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if you need a safe space in the midlands dm me
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James Harley
Goddamn, so sorry to hear, is it okay if I give you some advice?
Of course
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James Harley 03/26/2023 7:33 PM
Okay so, I would definitely recommend standing your ground, and setting boundaries between yourself and your parents, because the way they’re acting is completely unacceptable, whether they’re intentions are good or not. If you want to move out is completely your choice to make as an adult and they have no right to keep you from making that choice, let alone forcing you to go to christian councilors against your will. I think you moving out in this case would be better for your mental health. So definitely standing up for yourself is the best thing I think you can in this case, ether that or just start packing, that’s all I can say.
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James Harley
Okay so, I would definitely recommend standing your ground, and setting boundaries between yourself and your parents, because the way they’re acting is completely unacceptable, whether they’re intentions are good or not. If you want to move out is completely your choice to make as an adult and they have no right to keep you from making that choice, let alone forcing you to go to christian councilors against your will. I think you moving out in this case would be better for your mental health. So definitely standing up for yourself is the best thing I think you can in this case, ether that or just start packing, that’s all I can say.
Hayden (he/they) 03/26/2023 9:02 PM
As an adendum to this, not just in this case but for everyone, if you are over 18 and someone is trying to physically not allow you to leave an area, theres a word for that: kidnapping.
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James Harley 03/26/2023 10:10 PM
1000% agree, no one should be forced to stay in an area they’re not comfortable in.
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As an adendum to this, not just in this case but for everyone, if you are over 18 and someone is trying to physically not allow you to leave an area, theres a word for that: kidnapping.
They keep asking me how my life is so awful at home, the thing is, it isn't. I feel awful trying to leave because I have a great home life other than them not supporting that singular aspect. So I feel like I'm kinda trapped
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robin (they/it) 03/27/2023 9:13 AM
just because you can survive in a situation doesn't mean you aren't allowed to make changes
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seb it/they 03/27/2023 9:20 AM
also "that singular aspect" is your core identity
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it's not a "little thing"
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seb it/they
it's not a "little thing"
It just makes me feel selfish and like pure scum for wanting to leave, I know they're just doing what they know
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seb it/they 03/27/2023 9:29 AM
you're allowed to have your own life and be yourself
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wanting freedom to be your self is not selfish, it's a part of being human
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It just makes me feel selfish and like pure scum for wanting to leave, I know they're just doing what they know
James Harley 03/27/2023 10:21 AM
I’m the same way during breaks and telling my family that I want to stay, even so, I still eventually had to make that choice for myself, and eventually you will too. You may feel guilty about it, that’s what makes us human, but it was bound to happen anyway.
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tw my dentist misgendering me the dentist basically treated my medical transition as a medical oddity (along with my disability) but was supportive and excited about it, but the hygenist kept talking to me about how it was a "big decision" to make and how it "must have put my mother through a lot" and i was like my mom is gay lol and then she was like "oh so she's supportive good" so it was like very mixed? idk
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that guilt tripping from the hygienists is so gross I’m sorry you had to deal with that seb
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Lol she wasn't even guilt tripping me on my dental health this time
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James Harley 03/27/2023 11:57 AM
And the fact that they said “it must have put your mother through a lot” like it’s your mom had the hardest time with it!
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seb it/they
Lol she wasn't even guilt tripping me on my dental health this time
Who cares about cavities when your propriety is at stake?? These are the important things to consider when going to the dentist.
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seb it/they 03/27/2023 1:20 PM
planned parenthood give me my hormones challenge :))))))))
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dreading my appointment with them this afternoon
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seb it/they 03/27/2023 1:22 PM
this is my only my 2cnd phone call, wonder how may it will have to be before i get meds
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only did a half dose last week and i can feel it toooooo
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lumenbos (they/he) 03/27/2023 1:23 PM
do you all have the direct extension for planned Parenthood? waiting on the line sucks
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seb it/they 03/27/2023 1:24 PM
straight to voicemail :)
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yeah i do lol
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lumenbos (they/he) 03/27/2023 1:25 PM
ugh yeah 😮💨 it sucks that coordinating with them is so hard and every pharmacy fucks up the prescriptions they send in too.
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seb it/they 03/27/2023 1:26 PM
i just want my boy juice ;-;
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they fucked up both prescriptions they wrote me last time
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truly incredible
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they've also inexplicably switched from sending me appointment reminders using my chosen name to using my deadname
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holy hell they also apparently decided to change my telehealth appointment to an office appointment with no warning. or maybe not??? I have reminders saying both in person and telehealth god almighty (edited)
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anybody have recommendations for hrt providers near columbia that accept BCBS?
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lumenbos (they/he) 03/27/2023 1:42 PM
I've tried going to Prisma for an endocrinologist but got hit with more medical gatekeeping. they wanted a psychiatrist to sign off before I could get hrt with them. they were supposed to refer me but never did ofc. if you've already done something like they might be worth getting in contact with.
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I used to do informed consent through Prisma but I moved out of the upstate and they stopped doing telehealth
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/27/2023 4:04 PM
Saw a therapist on campus for an emergency walk in and he told me im being dramatic and faking it
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That’s so awesome based and cool
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What the fuck
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seb it/they 03/27/2023 4:20 PM
Report his ass
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Also if you need to hangout I'm here
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Nerak1 Dave 03/27/2023 5:43 PM
Not sure how up to date these are, but the Harriet Hancock center has some recommendations:.
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ColorfulKnoll 03/27/2023 5:52 PM
Oh they added alot more (edited)
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And took off the ones that dropped me
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
i swear my mother has a damn midgendering radar. I'll offhandedly tell her "im hanging out with [james] or [emily] today", and she'll respond with "how is james, is she well?" or "tell emily i hope he has a good day" cw misgendering i have never fucking told her these people are trans, she has never met them, how the fuck does she do this.
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/27/2023 7:43 PM
She did it again
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This time she referred to a trans man as “the girl”
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/27/2023 8:03 PM
this has really not been my day
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robin (they/it) 03/27/2023 8:46 PM
i have to go to the psychiatrist tomorrow and i hate doctors. they are gonna be like youre fucked up and im going to be like yeah gurl why you think im here
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Lmao, a whole mood
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been on hold with the cvs for 14 minutes now
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robin (they/it)
i have to go to the psychiatrist tomorrow and i hate doctors. they are gonna be like youre fucked up and im going to be like yeah gurl why you think im here
robin (they/it) 03/28/2023 1:40 PM
update: they kicked me out because i dont live in their jurisdiction, but i also dont live out of their jurisdiction
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Robin lives in the space between reality and nothingness? How are you neither in or out of their jurisdiction?
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Robin lives in an airport
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robin (they/it) 03/28/2023 1:42 PM
i dont live in atlanta where i live but i also dont live here where i live
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Ah yes, the college student’s dilemma ;-;
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robin (they/it) 03/28/2023 1:44 PM
i thought that since my permanent address is in atl i would see a psychiatrist who practices in atl but i was wrong apparently
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yeah being in college and finding a psych is hard
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i need a new one bc mine is gonna drop me unless i see him in person after they drop the covid emergency decleration
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ronnie (he/him) 03/28/2023 3:56 PM
My boss is so cheap she’s watering down the windex
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It’s like useless now 😭
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I hate this place
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ronnie (he/him)
My boss is so cheap she’s watering down the windex
The #1 thing to keep in mind when cleaning mirrors and windows is to use mostly water so that you can see the streaks and know where you've already cleaned
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Idk streak-free windows can be dangerous
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Was at a poetry reading and it got stopped for a minute by some guy who fully walked into a glass wall and nearly fell over from the impact Like a bird or something, it was glorious
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Props to the custodial staff tho, it must have been spotless
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ronnie (he/him) 03/28/2023 4:12 PM
True! I’ve got to keep the sneeze guard foggy so customers don’t try to dive into it head first to eat the salmon
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… are they bears?
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ronnie (he/him) 03/28/2023 4:13 PM
God I wish..
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Anabelle (She/Her/Hers) 03/28/2023 4:19 PM
i'm very exhausted and i don't know how to help my friend
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she's getting kicked out of her housing. she was given 48 hours notice. she's in student housing and thus (afaik) doesnt have tennants rights under SC state law
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she's trying to talk with the housing director, to ask them to not kick her out. they want her to register for classes if she wishes to continue living as a student
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ronnie (he/him)
My boss is so cheap she’s watering down the windex
is that freshe poke
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Anabelle (She/Her/Hers) 03/28/2023 4:22 PM
to register for classes she has to talk with her advisor & have him "remove a hold". she sent him an email. the email included profanity because i think she's sort of breaking down at the thought of having to live with her abusive family.
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the advisor forwarded the request to the deparment head, who said "this is innapropriate in tone and content and i'm going to forward this to the dean to see if there are consequences for you" or something along those lines"
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i like, this person also has bpd.
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it's just, i want to scream. this enrages me so mmuch
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everything from housing including a little notice saying "hey you only get 48 hours to move out" to the department head being like "hey you used the word fuck in your email, i'm' going to talk to the dean" instead of "oh shit. this person is having a mental health crisis."
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So depressed today I skipped two classes and now missed an important meeting
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;-;
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/29/2023 11:41 AM
had to drop thermodynamics so guess im pushing graduation back another year
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yay : (
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thermo is really hard athena
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be kind to yourself about it if you can
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
had to drop thermodynamics so guess im pushing graduation back another year
robin (they/it) 03/29/2023 2:51 PM
CW: theater thermodynamics more like thermic dynamos
SPOILER
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cade (he/him) 03/29/2023 2:56 PM
the warning for theater 💀
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seb it/they 03/29/2023 6:12 PM
A cayenne pepper related disaster has occured in my kitchen
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Mfw CVS don't have my boy juice ready
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seb it/they 03/29/2023 6:43 PM
cvs never has the boy juice on time it suckkssss
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Mfw CVS don't have my boy juice ready
robin (they/it) 03/29/2023 6:44 PM
i have nearly gotten into fist fights with cvs for not having my meds
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Challenge the corporate board of CVS to a duel
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seb it/they 03/29/2023 6:46 PM
i will say shout to the one guy at the CVS who realized i am trans and longer genders me or says my name at all during our interactions
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acab includes cvs
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if you can, i highly recommend the pharmacy at the walmart in cayce
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if you can switch where u get ur meds
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Yeah this is ridiculous
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lumenbos (they/he) 03/30/2023 11:23 AM
does this shit happen with estrogen or is it more because t is a controlled substance? i just can't believe how many different kinds of fuck ups happen in filling t regardless of the pharmacy. I've had issues at CVS, Publix, Kroger, etc.
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This shit happens with estrogen as well but not to the extent it happens with t
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ronnie (he/him) 03/30/2023 11:29 AM
The process of getting a refill is so time consuming and annoying I know from the second I get it filled I need to use every vial down to the dregs it’s so 😑
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So family counseling went... The councilor couldn't talk to my parents because of a conflict of interest, my parents then proceeded to throw a tantrum and got the manager involved. I was incredibly embarrassed and my parents will be calling someone above the manager of the counciling center, I'm also not allowed back at that counciling center and will be put in christian counciling, they keep accusing me of making the councilor not talk to them, I don't know what to do anymore... (edited)
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 03/30/2023 4:42 PM
I am so sorry, that is awful you had to deal with that.
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lumenbos (they/he)
does this shit happen with estrogen or is it more because t is a controlled substance? i just can't believe how many different kinds of fuck ups happen in filling t regardless of the pharmacy. I've had issues at CVS, Publix, Kroger, etc.
i'm sure a lot of it is it being a schedule ii... it's annoying enough to keep getting my adhd medication and I've been on that stuff for like 20 years, and now all of a sudden I have to get drug tested regularly to make sure I'm taking it. i'm sure labcorp loves this.
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So family counseling went... The councilor couldn't talk to my parents because of a conflict of interest, my parents then proceeded to throw a tantrum and got the manager involved. I was incredibly embarrassed and my parents will be calling someone above the manager of the counciling center, I'm also not allowed back at that counciling center and will be put in christian counciling, they keep accusing me of making the councilor not talk to them, I don't know what to do anymore... (edited)
Anabelle (She/Her/Hers) 03/31/2023 8:42 AM
my parents made me see a gender therapist (they got really confused and thought they were sending me to conversion therapy) & like, they also threw a fit when the therapist supported me & told me i had to stop seeing her.
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all i can say is to say strong. it’s fucking soul crushing, but one day this too shall pass.
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 03/31/2023 9:19 AM
There's always an end to the tunnel, regarding restrictive or unsupportive parents. Time. Stay strong.
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae)
There's always an end to the tunnel, regarding restrictive or unsupportive parents. Time. Stay strong.
Thank you all for the kind words
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 03/31/2023 5:42 PM
5 of my prescriptions arent in stock yay 🫠
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AsterTheDisaster 04/01/2023 12:06 AM
Transphobia on trans day of visibility 😮🫠
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I’ve been trying to get better at unmasking around close friends but I still felt like I had to keep constant eye contact because I didn’t want to seem rude 🫠 I slept the rest of the day as I got home
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seb it/they 04/01/2023 8:49 PM
unmasking is so hard 💜
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robin (they/it) 04/01/2023 8:55 PM
even when im less masked im still some masked which is annoying . but i dont make eye contact ever though because it gives me physical pain
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one of my teachers said we should do eye contact when doing presentations . i told her i was not gonna do that she said " ok fair enough i get it " which is based of her
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seb it/they 04/01/2023 8:56 PM
i like make eye contact but then i like completely lose my ability to have a brain during it
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robin (they/it) 04/01/2023 8:58 PM
understandable
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My mom is evil and I am ✨upset✨
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/03/2023 10:03 AM
great
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my interview i was so excited for, i didnt get the job
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so at this point im not going to have a job this summer
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again
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If the academic advisor has to put this at the end of an email, maybe we should have better registration practices
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Hailey (she/they) 04/03/2023 12:34 PM
Almost all arts and humanities classes are unavailable to me until they fix some weird problem so now I just have to wait and stay in contemporary dance until I can get into my painting class
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This weeks vent chat is going to be all advising related lol
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Hailey (she/they)
Almost all arts and humanities classes are unavailable to me until they fix some weird problem so now I just have to wait and stay in contemporary dance until I can get into my painting class
It’s just open to art majors rn, I am an art minor so I emailed my advisor for her to open it
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So that might work for you (edited)
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It’s just open to art majors rn, I am an art minor so I emailed my advisor for her to open it
Hailey (she/they) 04/03/2023 3:45 PM
I emailed my advisor and I finally got it fixed! Thank you!!!
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my interview i was so excited for, i didnt get the job
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/03/2023 3:48 PM
i just got another interview wednesday and im going to try to be positive (edited)
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robin (they/it) 04/03/2023 10:06 PM
the show im working on has very frustrating sound and the system i have to use sucks and it doesnt let you edit anything or fade or adjust the volume of the tracks . there are random ass vamps and caesuras in the score and some if them are there for a reason and some are not . the director refuses to let us have a cue to cue so i get to just guess when the cues are and then he gets mad when the sounds are wrong . it is difficult because we get blamed for what we dont know but also dont get the chance to learn it . also the director does not know my name and i have multiple positions in the show including a leadership position so he has had multiple meetings with me and texts me all the time to do certain things with the set design and he still doesnt know my name . he just blatantly doesnt care about me and just sees me as a machine who does things for him .
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WhichWitch17 04/03/2023 10:33 PM
Sorry Robin. I have heard- plenty of things about the director from some friends.
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Specifically in regards to how he treats crew. I feel bad for y’all. But at least he’s graduating so you won’t have to deal with him again- not that that makes right now better. But it’s something to look forward to
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Nico (she/her) 04/03/2023 11:03 PM
CW: sexual assault All of the sudden my thoughts are being flooded with my assaulter and what he's doing now and how sometimes I still hear people from my hometown talk about what a great guy he is and I definitely still have a lot of baggage from boy scouts I haven't dealt with
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AsterTheDisaster 04/04/2023 12:43 AM
student organizing is so frustrating sometimes. It's hard to remember how messy it is and how people aren't trained for the most part and your org structure can look completely different than someone elses. It's also hard to be seen as legitimate when you're newer. You also have to remind yourself that you're just one individual. It's really great to have an amazing advisor tho
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AsterTheDisaster 04/05/2023 3:14 PM
Clemson Student government when they post something celebrating pride but Senate handbook still has a gendered formal dress code: 🤡
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robin (they/it) 04/05/2023 3:16 PM
L clemson /j
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seb it/they 04/05/2023 3:17 PM
This but not a joke
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AsterTheDisaster 04/05/2023 3:19 PM
Like to be fair the living learning community I'm in was pushed by it but something about that being there and it says the president and something about a clerk or secretary get to enforce it. So what happens if there's a homophobic president and a guy wants to wear feminine professional attire?
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seb it/they 04/05/2023 3:20 PM
Yeah no that just should not be a thing
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Can you put pressure on them to get rid of it?
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AsterTheDisaster 04/05/2023 3:56 PM
Lol the inclusion and equity committee chair already messaged me like right after I made a public comment on their post.
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
i just got another interview wednesday and im going to try to be positive (edited)
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/06/2023 11:37 AM
They want me to come back for a 2nd interview : 0
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Ive never had a company ask me to come back before
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congrats Athena!!!
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Came across a twitter interaction I had with a friend who’s since died and now I’m sad
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robin (they/it) 04/06/2023 10:22 PM
abolish thirsty thursday or at least move the room with the alcohol supplier to not right next to my room . i just want to sleep
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/06/2023 10:53 PM
oh come ooooooon
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Nico (she/her) 04/07/2023 11:23 AM
well, looks like I'm missing $157 on my paycheck
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Nico (she/her) 04/07/2023 11:33 AM
and ofc the small claims filing fee is $150
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/07/2023 2:36 PM
oh for fucks sakes
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not a single local pharmacy has the estradiol i need
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Do you take pills
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If so dm me
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/07/2023 2:38 PM
nope
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/07/2023 2:49 PM
i need estradiol cypionate
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robin (they/it) 04/07/2023 2:50 PM
i have an opposite problem that the cvs keeps giving me medicine when i dont need it
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Just bit my finger trying to eat a French fry ama
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Did you confuse flesh for potato?
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Or were you too excited?
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robin (they/it) 04/08/2023 12:23 PM
you have to feed a cyprus like a horse, with a flat hand or it will nom the fingies
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Bernie
Did you confuse flesh for potato?
Yes
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Bernie
Or were you too excited?
Also yes
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where were the fries from
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Their hands
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probably cookout
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where were the fries from
Homophobic chicken restaurant
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AsterTheDisaster 04/09/2023 1:51 PM
Our student funding board got requested way more money than available and there was an article written specifically about the club hockey team and somebody commented on the post complaining that the drag show was taking away funding. Ugh just let us have fun for once in life without whining about it.
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hey pretaining to the discussion from #social-media, im only gonna this cause it happened to me but if you guys are going to have disagreements, thats cool. But dont dogpile. 1v5 is not fun. do a 1v1 discussion and if you dont like it, leave it alone and have someone else take it up.
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thats all im saying
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I consider transmedicalism to be a form of transphobia and think it should be countered as such
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Ellie
hey pretaining to the discussion from #social-media, im only gonna this cause it happened to me but if you guys are going to have disagreements, thats cool. But dont dogpile. 1v5 is not fun. do a 1v1 discussion and if you dont like it, leave it alone and have someone else take it up.
I'm gonna disagree on what makes it a dogpile, I think it's less so about the number and more the content of what people are saying. So 5 angry people constitutes a dogpile much more so than 5 calm people if that makes sense?
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 1:37 PM
(can we please wait at least 10 minutes to continue this as requested?)
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is it okay to talk now?
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 1:53 PM
Ok with me.
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 1:53 PM
Yeah
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It doesn’t particularly matter what reason someone has for transitioning
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cool, so i get what your saying olivia but even if it is 5 calm people, its hard for 1 person to respond to everyone. thats what happened to me at csoc and it sucked alot. all im asking is that you guys dont do that
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all im asking
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but yeah continue with the convo
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Anybody ought be able to access HRT for any reason.
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(Provided they are informed about what changes they might expect, the informed part of informed consent is important ofc)
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Ellie
cool, so i get what your saying olivia but even if it is 5 calm people, its hard for 1 person to respond to everyone. thats what happened to me at csoc and it sucked alot. all im asking is that you guys dont do that
yeah I get that and having thought about it more once it does devolve into 5v1 it seems likely that that will ratchet up tensions on that side with a sort of team dynamic? idk I just think allowing a variety of perspectives is good and I think that picking one "spokesperson" could also create that team dynamic? I'm not trying to be contrarian with you, I'm just genuinely not sure what the best way to go about stuff like this is
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 1:57 PM
I think the way in which you called me out was inappropriate liv
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yeah I get that and having thought about it more once it does devolve into 5v1 it seems likely that that will ratchet up tensions on that side with a sort of team dynamic? idk I just think allowing a variety of perspectives is good and I think that picking one "spokesperson" could also create that team dynamic? I'm not trying to be contrarian with you, I'm just genuinely not sure what the best way to go about stuff like this is
thats true yeah, it can be a very weird dynamic
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mmmmmmm idk either way whether its a 5v1 or having a spokesperson, i think we should know that disagreements are bound to happen but we are all on the same team and fighting the same fight with disagreements on the side at the end of the day. Acknowledge differences but we are on the same team
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:00 PM
i really do not want to be one the same team with people who try to deny me hormones
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yeah I'm gonna have to agree
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by usual transmed definitions, im not a trans man
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I don't experience gender dysphoria
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:01 PM
and try to impose "functioning" lables onto autistic people
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:01 PM
Why would I try to deny you hormones?
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:02 PM
you said that my reason for wanting hormones is "ludicrious"
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you said that people shouldn't take hormones "for fun"
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what does that entail?
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:02 PM
this is specifcally what you said
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:03 PM
The way you described it makes it sound ludicrous.
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Doesn’t mean you should deny peoples’ autonomy (edited)
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:03 PM
But you're an adult (I'd assume).
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So it's up to you and your doc
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It’s not up to my doctor
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It’s up to me.
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:04 PM
And your doc. He/she has to prescribe it for you.
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syntheticMalware 04/10/2023 2:04 PM
“You shouldn’t be allowed to medically transition for fun” but it’s so fun idk what u mean
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Nerak1 Dave
So it's up to you and your doc
which is where this conversation started, it sometimes is (wrongly) up to people's doctors due to the disjointed power relationship between healthcare seekers and the ones who hold the lock and key
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:05 PM
That I don't agree with. It's dangerous to self medicate
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I could give everyone here links & recipes and tell you how to diy <3
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:05 PM
it's absolutely not up to my doc
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guys are you serious.
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theres like fucking 6 people responding
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syntheticMalware 04/10/2023 2:05 PM
And that’s wrong ?
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we're dealing with transphobia
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can we not do "he/she" and "guys" please
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look at the server you're in
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we're dealing with disagreements
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look at the server you're in
true and its a coalition. theres going to be disagreements
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Cyprus
I consider transmedicalism to be a form of transphobia and think it should be countered as such
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“You shouldn’t be allowed to medically transition for fun” but it’s so fun idk what u mean
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Gosh I wish I had a fun experience with transitioning. I've had to change doctors several times
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:06 PM
This is not transphobia.
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Ellie
we're dealing with disagreements
syntheticMalware 04/10/2023 2:06 PM
The disagreement is we should allow other people to dictate whether or not we should be allowed transitioning
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Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:07 PM
Not to be johnny-come-lately here, but @Nerak1 Dave you seem to be really interested in public policy and writing text. Do you think you could contribute to something like legislation research or writing copy for social media instead of starting arguments and antagonizing strangers on the internet?
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Seems like if we have time for that we should have time for doing the constructive bit at least
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:07 PM
Whatever you guys need.
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Gosh I wish I had a fun experience with transitioning. I've had to change doctors several times
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Not the doctors but getting lil mustache
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can we not do "he/she" and "guys" please
tapping the sign
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Ellie
guys are you serious.
Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:08 PM
And yeah, we are serious. Dogpilling is not the worst thing a person can do, and it can be a mechanism for shouting down points of view that arent worth debating
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Nerak1 Dave
Whatever you guys need.
Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:08 PM
Well why dont you start?
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:08 PM
DIY hormones should never need to happen.
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They should be accessible though
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:08 PM
Tell me what to write.
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We are rapidly reaching a point where they are necessary
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guerilla healthcare is how people are going to live after "all of the hormones are gone after the shortage"
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This guide describes how a small collective produced and distributed transdermal estrogen using reproducible do-it-yourself methods.
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atleast debate them 1 on 1 rather than shouting down points that some may disagree with. we are int he same boat but this is just alienating people when they could be convinced in a 1 on 1. everyone here im sure is open to dialogue
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:09 PM
Yes. And we all can agree that it should never get there.
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What if somebody wants to do DIY for whatever reason
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atleast debate them 1 on 1 rather than shouting down points that some may disagree with. we are int he same boat but this is just alienating people when they could be convinced in a 1 on 1. everyone here im sure is open to dialogue
i'm keen on alienating ableism tbqh
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im keen on alienating disagreements that i like dont or that can talked about tbqh /sarcasm (edited)
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ok im leaving sorry
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Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:10 PM
Since this has started, we have always been at a deficit for people willing to put time and energy into public facing events, social media, planning, etc. Thats almost always due to time constraints, other obligations etc. Im not going to hand hold you through this process when there are countless meetings I've never seen you at, countless things that need to get done where your name has never popped up
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im keen on alienating disagreements that i like dont or that can talked about tbqh /sarcasm (edited)
seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:11 PM
It's really interesting how ableism and some forms of transphobia are very consistently dismissed as "just a disagreement"
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:11 PM
It's dangerous. Blood clot risk in transfem and all sorts of risks for transmasc (roid rage, roid boobs, heart disease, etc,)
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atleast debate them 1 on 1 rather than shouting down points that some may disagree with. we are int he same boat but this is just alienating people when they could be convinced in a 1 on 1. everyone here im sure is open to dialogue
Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:11 PM
By the fact this person has only spoken twice in this server only to start arguments and antagonize people, Im not really sure how much debating needs to get done. I dont really care about the feelings or alienation of someone with such intense lack on interest in the care of others
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Hailey (she/they) 04/10/2023 2:11 PM
Part of the issue is just that then it would be up for medical professionals to decide who is doing it for “fun” and that could lead to bias and exclusion
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the only difference between diy and going legit is how much you're paying for the same shit
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and having to pay for your blood tests
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It's dangerous. Blood clot risk in transfem and all sorts of risks for transmasc (roid rage, roid boobs, heart disease, etc,)
There is a wealth of resources online on how to avoid this.
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It's dangerous. Blood clot risk in transfem and all sorts of risks for transmasc (roid rage, roid boobs, heart disease, etc,)
Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:12 PM
Almost as dangerous as drinking soda or eating a big mac. Things I happen to enjoy
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syntheticMalware 04/10/2023 2:13 PM
I was going to make that point as well-
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:13 PM
Also saying roid rage referencing trans mascs is demonizing T
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syntheticMalware 04/10/2023 2:13 PM
Also that ^^
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seb it/they 04/10/2023 2:13 PM
And is also a common transphobic tactic used against trans men and those who take T
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Nerak1 Dave 04/10/2023 2:14 PM
Roid rage is bound to happen when you have no idea what your T level is. It's easy to overdose your T.
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nerak1 check dms
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"Testosterone poisoning" rhetoric etc
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roid rage....... ? (incredulous) (edited)
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roid rage....... ? (incredulous) (edited)
testosterone can cause emotional influxes, because you're basically going through puberty again
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testosterone isn't an anabolic steroid
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Hailey (she/they) 04/10/2023 2:15 PM
If we are worried about how hormones negatively affect the body then are we also advocating for estrogen based birth control to be severely limited? The side effects for it are awful?
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Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:15 PM
But my point still stands. Why waste time debating a hypothetical guerilla use of medication when the real threat of legislation is actually happening? Dont you think its a waste of time to argue with people about this (which clearly you have failed to convince anyone on) and divert that energy to something more useful?
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All the information you need to be informed on DIY Hormone Replacement Therapy
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testosterone isn't an anabolic steroid
calling it roid rage is transphobic as seb already mentioned and it's also medically incorrect lol
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this site contains dosing information for being safe while using DIY testosterone as well as what safe doses are and information on blood testing to avoid the effects described (edited)
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plus the hormonal shifts and mood changes one gets from HRT of any sort are not uniform and do not conform to hobbly gobbly notions of masculine and feminine emotions
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Nerak1 Dave
Whatever you guys need.
Hayden (he/they) 04/10/2023 2:17 PM
Almost like there is a big ol' list of things to do in the drive that need help. Which I am sure you have looked into
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plus the hormonal shifts and mood changes one gets from HRT of any sort are not uniform and do not conform to hobbly gobbly notions of masculine and feminine emotions
Hailey (she/they) 04/10/2023 2:18 PM
True!! and I had hormonal shifts from birth control that made me super depressed but that doesn’t mean birth control should be restricted
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(we are on the same page, i meant my question mark to be incredulous, sorry for any confusion)
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ColorfulKnoll 04/10/2023 2:19 PM
There's at home horomone test as well right? So you can keep track of it with a third party if you're really worried
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Cyprus pinned a message to this channel. 04/10/2023 2:19 PM
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Or labcorp
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diy communities heavily recommend getting blood tests frequently
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@Nerak1 Dave here's the list of things that need to be done. if u didnt know, now u know (: https://docs.google.com/document/d/17MS0ZuhoBYZLY0Bp0J56aA6AyLQ3DtmEH2bJdtdbRZU/edit
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endocrinology is hard, so consulting with an endocrinologist is definitely still a good idea if you can afford it (edited)
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Roid rage is bound to happen when you have no idea what your T level is. It's easy to overdose your T.
lumenbos (they/he) 04/10/2023 2:21 PM
Sorry cutting in here to say how ironic this comment is for me. I've spent the last year of my transition unable to talk to anyone about my T levels due to medical gatekeeping from doctors offices and pharmacists. Despite this problem I've never had an increase in my rage levels. Ease of access would make it a lot easier for me to have a safer transition. otherwise I can't even continue to see an endocrinologist without a referral to an in house psyc that they never even send 🙃
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robin (they/it) 04/10/2023 2:41 PM
@Cyprus probably move these into medical resources
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lumenbos (they/he)
Sorry cutting in here to say how ironic this comment is for me. I've spent the last year of my transition unable to talk to anyone about my T levels due to medical gatekeeping from doctors offices and pharmacists. Despite this problem I've never had an increase in my rage levels. Ease of access would make it a lot easier for me to have a safer transition. otherwise I can't even continue to see an endocrinologist without a referral to an in house psyc that they never even send 🙃
felt this 100%
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medical gatekeeping is going 2 b the death of so many and i have experienced it so much firsthand and i wish that was an issue spoken about much more rather than stupid ass semantics surrounding it etc. etc. (edited)
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ive been on t for two years but due 2 medical gatekeeping i had to cross statelines for ab a year to get my t levels checked
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shit sux
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ANYWAYsorry yall 2 interrupt i jus wanted 2 put my 2 cents in bc this issue in particular hits so hard
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No I appreciated you sharing your own experiences!
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I’ve had to go through lot of unnecessary trouble to get my own prescriptions and it shouldn’t be that difficult for anyone
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IM SAYIN LIKE
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if uve been on a medication, very happily, for YEARS. wtf should anyone else have a say in it for
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I’ve had to go through additional appointments to get…refills
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literally what im having to do on the 18th
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its so stupid (edited)
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good luck with your appointment though
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ty !!!! u too ! planned parenthood is p goated so far theyve been helpful (edited)
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i used 2 use plume but yknow
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hence the crossing statelines^
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/10/2023 3:00 PM
my estrogen patches are also out of stock
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Nerak1 Dave
That I don't agree with. It's dangerous to self medicate
You are, and rightfully so, legally allowed to do things that are dangerous to yourself. Especially when you can acknowledge the risk
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On top of that, DIY HRT with all the resources available online is far safer than it’s being made out to be
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Atticus (he/him) 04/11/2023 9:11 AM
Just want to input, DIY HRT would probably save my life if it were accessible to me. The medical industry is extremely corrupt and most medical professionals don’t want to work with trans people to begin with, especially when we’re dirt poor and/or disabled. Legalize everything.
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seb it/they 04/11/2023 3:45 PM
shout out to my one lab group member who shouts down or makes passive agressive comments about every single thing i do in our lab report including, not writing an intro, writing an intro but in a way he didn't personally like, deleting said intro and then rewriting it but still in a way he didn't like, editing his work despite being the assigned editor in the report, not editing his work fast enough, not editing different work he wanted feedback on (he did not tell me this) and "not contributing enough"
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seb it/they 04/11/2023 3:56 PM
it's really frustrating bc no matter how much or how little i contribute or even what i do he's going to be mad at me lol
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robin (they/it) 04/11/2023 4:02 PM
that's rough
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Ear infection sucks
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Blegh
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No fun
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I have a tooth ache and I’m not sure if it’s wisdom teeth or something else
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AsterTheDisaster 04/11/2023 11:00 PM
Writing something for school for the first time in forever and I'm struggling so much.
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AsterTheDisaster 04/11/2023 11:08 PM
It's so hard to remember I'm still a student with assignments to do.
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Nerak1 Dave 04/12/2023 9:05 AM
What's it about?
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robin (they/it) 04/12/2023 12:14 PM
i wish i could 10 second skip and put people on 2x speed irl
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/13/2023 1:16 AM
A wonderful night ended with some creep following me up to my building door and then staring at me as I go through security.
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Nerak1 Dave 04/13/2023 1:52 AM
That sounds really disturbing. I'd make sure the security ppl know to never let the guy in.
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robin (they/it) 04/13/2023 5:34 PM
i just time jumped most of the day and now i have to get dinner but i am severely confused at how the time is
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either0rgans 04/15/2023 7:45 PM
Can I vent about drug ish here,? Sorry if that's poor way to phrase
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seb it/they 04/15/2023 7:45 PM
yes, but i would use a trigger warning
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either0rgans 04/15/2023 7:45 PM
K
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seb it/they 04/15/2023 7:46 PM
tw drug use especially specifically around withdrawls, needles, or overdose as these can be difficult for people to read about
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either0rgans 04/15/2023 7:46 PM
How do u do the thing to cover it ?
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seb it/they 04/15/2023 7:46 PM
this is explicity a space that is harm reduction focused and supportive of drug users though transheart
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you use two pipes || like this||
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either0rgans 04/15/2023 7:47 PM
I hope so ♥♥
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Ok
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either0rgans 04/15/2023 8:10 PM
Sorry got lost on Kabbalah YouTube, have no idea where the bar thingy is on keyboard I'm just going through dope withdrawal for the zillionth time and I'm in my mid thirties hating myself
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seb it/they 04/15/2023 8:16 PM
do you want any specific type of support? withdrawals are brutal
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either0rgans 04/15/2023 8:24 PM
Just venting I appreciate it tho
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either0rgans
Sorry got lost on Kabbalah YouTube, have no idea where the bar thingy is on keyboard I'm just going through dope withdrawal for the zillionth time and I'm in my mid thirties hating myself
robin (they/it) 04/15/2023 8:37 PM
for real keyboard
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for android
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and idk for apple i cant help you
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AsterTheDisaster 04/15/2023 9:52 PM
Clemson republican club keeps making my life hell.
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seb it/they 04/15/2023 9:54 PM
We're here to support you
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AsterTheDisaster
Clemson republican club keeps making my life hell.
these gay tigers send their love alt text: two tigers showing affection by cheek rubbing (edited)
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Anabelle (She/Her/Hers) 04/16/2023 12:31 AM
i’m in a bit of despair right now with what’s happening in misouri
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the fact that we’re getting about the same amount of noticed that you’d get for a hurricane scares the shit out of me
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yeah its scary
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seb it/they 04/16/2023 7:21 PM
4th week in a row of my bread collapsing ;-;
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I also biked so hard I passed out a little
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Nico (she/her) 04/17/2023 9:39 AM
Was going to an interview this morning, I show up and apparently they canceled without notifying any of the interviewees
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thats fucked up
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Nico (she/her) 04/17/2023 9:39 AM
Hopefully they reschedule soon
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Brought range gear cause it's close (ish) to the wateree range so it won't be a complete waste of a trip tho
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Nico (she/her) 04/17/2023 11:06 AM
Well the range is closed Monday so all my plans went out the window
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shoot at street signs
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Cass (she/her) 04/17/2023 11:09 AM
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AsterTheDisaster 04/17/2023 3:10 PM
People are really trying to attack my character just because they don't like who I am
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what happened?
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AsterTheDisaster
People are really trying to attack my character just because they don't like who I am
seb it/they 04/17/2023 8:13 PM
yo i just want to check on you about this? do you want to talk about it? do you need anything?
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(hope me checking is not intrusive transheart )
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AsterTheDisaster 04/17/2023 8:16 PM
Nah I'm good thanks though (and it's always nice to be checked on ♥️) I'm just learning how to juggle being a "public figure" and having social media.
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Sometimes I feel so behind on how to use it bc I didn't have access before halfway through high school and I forget things can be pulled out of context.
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robin (they/it) 04/17/2023 9:27 PM
i possibly got myself and cyprus poisoned by dairy queen but i got $10 out of it so it is queer joy/sadness
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Body feel funny
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Dairy Queen refunded us and the two cars ahead of us because our ice cream tasted like chemicals and now I feel weird : )
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Hayden (he/they) 04/17/2023 9:28 PM
Was it the one in honeydew
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robin (they/it) 04/17/2023 9:28 PM
dont eat poison yall
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No it was somewhere in Georgia
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robin (they/it) 04/17/2023 9:29 PM
but we paid with a gift card and they refunded us in cash which is pog
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hayden turns out there is a hazelhurst museum
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Hayden (he/they) 04/17/2023 9:31 PM
I imagine its a small building
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Roughly building sized
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Hayden (he/they) 04/17/2023 9:35 PM
Hm what was going on then
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We have to go again Thursday because my car wasn’t ready we can stop by and witness the questionable mural
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Hayden (he/they) 04/17/2023 9:37 PM
Going to harleyhock should be like the chernobyl exclusion zone, you only get some many trips before it threatens your health
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did they tell you it was ready before you went?
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If I waited for them to tell me I would’ve gotten there after it closed
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I did an autism and feared calling them in the morning
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Hayden (he/they)
Going to harleyhock should be like the chernobyl exclusion zone, you only get some many trips before it threatens your health
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/17/2023 11:00 PM
every expedition = 500 millisieverts of georgia exposure
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Bee(she/they/fae/it) 04/17/2023 11:04 PM
so I may want advice for real right now one of the people I'm currently staying with because of circumstances(I'm currently homeless and struggling to find a new apartment with my partner) has some information that can jeopardize the life of one of my friends if publicized, and she's been in a really bad mental spot lately and has been threatening to do just that, and I've reached the end of what I can do. tonight I had a mental breakdown because of it and ended up vomiting. in addition I have a migraine, have had it all day I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm letting my friend down and like I can't help the friend I'm staying with and just,,,,, I can't right now I just can't
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Bee(she/they/fae/it)
so I may want advice for real right now one of the people I'm currently staying with because of circumstances(I'm currently homeless and struggling to find a new apartment with my partner) has some information that can jeopardize the life of one of my friends if publicized, and she's been in a really bad mental spot lately and has been threatening to do just that, and I've reached the end of what I can do. tonight I had a mental breakdown because of it and ended up vomiting. in addition I have a migraine, have had it all day I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm letting my friend down and like I can't help the friend I'm staying with and just,,,,, I can't right now I just can't
Here if you need to talk, also #mutual-aid is available if you and your partner need any monetary support
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Car update: dealer won’t get part until Saturday / car won’t be fixed until Monday a week from now
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Oop
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Lmk if you need a ride anywhere
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I’m supposed to play a show in Charleston on Saturday but I’m not sure if I can make that
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cade (he/him) 04/18/2023 2:14 PM
i’m more nervous about the loomer protest now : / i wanna go; but there’s a LOT of conservative eyes on it and conservatives can be crazy
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seb it/they 04/18/2023 2:14 PM
Every body there makes it safer
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But yeah it's terrifying im also very nervous
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cade (he/him) 04/18/2023 2:15 PM
it being at the university makes me feel a bit better; but still
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Hayden (he/they) 04/18/2023 2:23 PM
I'll be there in greyblock with med supplies
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Remember, if you see me don't run up to me or shout my name or something
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seb it/they 04/18/2023 2:26 PM
I'll also have med supplies
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And I think several others will as well
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cade (he/him)
i’m more nervous about the loomer protest now : / i wanna go; but there’s a LOT of conservative eyes on it and conservatives can be crazy
The more of us there are, the safer we are
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Bring a friend
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Victor (they/them) 04/18/2023 2:39 PM
I am also very nervous about it. I dont want to go into the meeting because I know they will be saying targeted and triggering stuff. If I can make it, I will be in the lobby. Maybe we can have a small speaker and play elton john or some other gay but smoothing music?
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That sounds like a good idea
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@Logan (he/him) could you bring your little speaker
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robin (they/it) 04/18/2023 3:40 PM
ive got a small water bottle sized speaker i can bring
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Logan (he/him) 04/18/2023 3:40 PM
Dont have mine on me
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robin (they/it)
ive got a small water bottle sized speaker i can bring
Yippee
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seb it/they 04/18/2023 4:49 PM
y'all i've had my shirt on inside out all day
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… it’s art
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It’s fashion
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seb it/they 04/18/2023 4:49 PM
at least i noticed
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Hailey (she/they) 04/18/2023 4:50 PM
Listen I pay extra for shirts with inside out seams from urban outfitters so you are just being fashionable
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tw fascist imagery someone carved a swastika into a PSL poster today. I walked by it and just stared at it for a while. its the first one I've seen in person in this context and it just unnerved me. as a queer jewish person it was just so horrible. I don't wanna further deface the poster but i just want it gone now
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Dingo (they/them) 04/19/2023 12:24 AM
I've been really busy on my end mostly just tightening up professional loose ends before I start actually (maybe) applying for writing work part time
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As a result, and the fact I'm pinching off of savings, I won't be able to contribute much to the group unfortunately. At least, in terms of physically showing up
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but I can still do research and little things but I still feel;;; guilty. But I'm spreading myself a bit thin here focusing on so many things
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seb it/they 04/19/2023 8:15 AM
Don't feel guilty, OAT is about sustainability
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I encourage you to contribute in a way that's sustainable for you over the long term
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tw fascist imagery someone carved a swastika into a PSL poster today. I walked by it and just stared at it for a while. its the first one I've seen in person in this context and it just unnerved me. as a queer jewish person it was just so horrible. I don't wanna further deface the poster but i just want it gone now
George (He/They) 04/19/2023 11:59 AM
Is it the one on the bridge by McBride or did someone deface a different poster somewhere else?
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the one on the bridge
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George (He/They) 04/19/2023 12:00 PM
I saw it Monday night. I can’t believe we have to deal with this shit in 2023
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It's pretty well fucked up at this point
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/19/2023 1:02 PM
A PSL poster outside the longst theatre also got defaced in the same way
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
A PSL poster outside the longst theatre also got defaced in the same way
seb it/they 04/19/2023 1:41 PM
Is it possible we can just remove it like char asked?
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/19/2023 1:42 PM
i would like to yes
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the event is over anyway
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I just got done doing that lol
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Oh wait fuck y'all mean a different one
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I'll get that one too, I would just appreciate it if someone has a better tool I could use
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My little Multitool isn't the best tool for the job
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Olivia
Oh wait fuck y'all mean a different one
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/19/2023 3:27 PM
it was about here, on greene st near longstreet theatre
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i can also get this on my way to csoc tonight
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yeah that's when I was gonna get it too lol
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Nico (she/her) 04/19/2023 4:55 PM
Holy fuck, I was dropping my partner off on campus and it literally took an hour, I hate cars
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Hayden (he/they) 04/19/2023 4:55 PM
Yeah 77 is still closed
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Bernie
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seb it/they 04/19/2023 4:56 PM
lol bernie can you add alt
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Nico (she/her) 04/19/2023 4:56 PM
Thank God I'll be living in a city where I won't need one
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Olivia
I just got done doing that lol
youre defacing the psl posters?
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Hayden (he/they)
Yeah 77 is still closed
Nico (she/her) 04/19/2023 4:56 PM
Oh shit is that why traffic has been so bad lately
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youre defacing the psl posters?
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/19/2023 4:57 PM
the poster had a swastika carved in it (edited)
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we are removing them
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AH that makes sense
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I'm leaving the rest alone
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gotcha gotcha, sorry, late to the convo
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Kate Bush, looking mystical and Kate Bush-y, with text overlaying that reads “I am very passionate about publicly transportation and pedestrian friendly city planning”
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lol bernie can you add alt
Did my best, Miss Bush is truly indescribable
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
it was about here, on greene st near longstreet theatre
I can't find this thing to save my life
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Doesn't help that there's 6 million of the damn posters on that block
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Nico (she/her)
Holy fuck, I was dropping my partner off on campus and it literally took an hour, I hate cars
77 south is down and the detour is straight through the uni on blossom to Knox abbot to 26 lmao
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BenjaminIsaac 04/19/2023 7:04 PM
that closure is from miles 0 to 5 right
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I already have to take a detour going north home this weekend but coming back I take exit 18 so I hope that isn’t fucked up too lol
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I forgot, all know is the added trucks on the detour makes my commute to work like twice as long
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Can't wait for school to be out so this traffic will die down lol
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My days are slightly more peaceful on yalls breaks 🤣🤣
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Caboose
I forgot, all know is the added trucks on the detour makes my commute to work like twice as long
Hayden (he/they) 04/19/2023 7:07 PM
Literally same
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Olivia
I can't find this thing to save my life
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/19/2023 7:07 PM
ill try to get it no worries
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:23 AM
Going for my seventh campus health center visit this semester. Wish my body would stop hurting. Seriously going to miss the amount of support I'm able to get through the student health fee. If I'd have had to pay for each visit I probably would have been through my entire budget by January.
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:23 AM
Sending you disabled love
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:25 AM
I feel kind of guilty going so often but there's not going to be another time in my life other than these four years where I can get that much care for so cheap. I'm honestly debating paying for the summer health fee just in case since I'll be here most of summer.
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:26 AM
My advice is to do it
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:26 AM
I've cracked the code to not having to do the mental health survey every time I'm in other than just the number survey. 💀
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cade (he/him) 04/20/2023 1:26 AM
don’t feel guilty, that’s what they’re for and if you need care, you deserve to receive it
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:26 AM
You deserve care for free
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:27 AM
I can't just tell my body to simply... Not be sick? /j
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:27 AM
Unrelated but kind of related
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I missed my sleep window and am still awake
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My bedtime is 10
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I will have a ME/cfs crash from this
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Debating putting myself in weighted blanket jail until I pass out lol
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seb it/they
I will have a ME/cfs crash from this
AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:28 AM
Wait omg we're medical condition twins 💀
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:29 AM
I'm twins with everyone apparently
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:29 AM
Crashes freaking suck 🫂
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:29 AM
@lissie ! (pls ping) they/she is also ME/CFS gang
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Lol that's why I'm so focused on sustainability
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If I had to learn how to pace everyone else does too
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:31 AM
I got this paper plate award at a banquet tonight [ a paper plate with blue lettering that says "most likely to discover a new disease" ]
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:32 AM
Are you in biomed?
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Or are they discovering it in you 😭
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:32 AM
No lol it was a joke about me being sick 💀
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:32 AM
I hope that was welcome lol if not that's kinda awful
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 1:33 AM
Yeah no it was a joke from a close friend. (Forgot to add that context)
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 1:33 AM
Ah okay lol
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Well attempt 4 at sleeping time, if you ever need to vent about me/cfs or other stuff similar feel free to dm me
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I'm on like year 4 since my dx
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 8:06 AM
I'm reading The Revolution Begins at Home and have so many frustrations with it
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seb it/they
I'm reading The Revolution Begins at Home and have so many frustrations with it
A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/20/2023 9:18 AM
I'd been thinking of getting that. What are your frustrations?
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:19 AM
It's high-key transphobic in parts
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Tw transphobia, SA One of the essays talks about "male-bodied" privilege (edited)
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Specifically saying that trans women somehow have privilege when it comes to SA stuff??? (edited)
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Highly wack
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/20/2023 9:20 AM
Fuck that
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:20 AM
Also some of the essays assume that the survivor of assault uses she/her pronouns and the perpetrator of assault uses he/him pronouns (edited)
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Some of the base ideas i think are good, it's just kinda consistently missing the mark in some ways for me
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It's a very diverse collection of essays
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/20/2023 9:24 AM
Yeah, that's just disappointing bc so much of the theory behind relationships is queer theory.
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:25 AM
Yeah and it tries to focus on queer relationships in parts
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Also some of the essays that address queer relationships are the most transphobic
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Which was extra upsetting to me
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comrade kalia (she/her) 04/20/2023 9:27 AM
sounds like some political lesbianism bullshit
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:27 AM
Yeah a bit
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comrade kalia (she/her) 04/20/2023 9:28 AM
can’t find anything on when the essays in the zine were written but if it was in the 80s-90s that tracks
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:28 AM
But there's also an essay calling out political lesbianism
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So it's very all over the place lol
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This is early two thousands
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comrade kalia (she/her) 04/20/2023 9:28 AM
ah the ol’ “shove it all in and let god sort ‘em out” kind of thing
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:28 AM
Yeah 😵💫
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seb it/they
This is early two thousands
comrade kalia (she/her) 04/20/2023 9:29 AM
so not too far, i wonder if each essay was written in the 00’s or if some are older
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:29 AM
Idk
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Oop it was published in 2011
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seb it/they
Specifically saying that trans women somehow have privilege when it comes to SA stuff??? (edited)
this reaaaally should have a content warning
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Oops sorry
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Fixed
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seb it/they
I'm reading The Revolution Begins at Home and have so many frustrations with it
Is there anything in there worth reading?
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seb it/they
Some of the base ideas i think are good, it's just kinda consistently missing the mark in some ways for me
Yeah, it's not all super great, I take probably a 3rd of them are useful and even then, I'd rephrase some parts. I have a physical copy of the zine in my car btw
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Is there anything in there worth reading?
There's probably 3 or 4 useful works out of the 20 or so
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Nico (she/her) 04/20/2023 5:27 PM
cw: self-depricating language I wish I didn't have a no good poopoo brain that forgets things easily, I just make things harder for people around me
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/20/2023 9:50 PM
I struggle severely with being nonverbal and it took being in this community and hearing yalls experiences that I've found the language to describe my experience and I want to thank you all for that so much.
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/20/2023 9:51 PM
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:51 PM
if you want more to research you should look into ACC
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i have some friends who are very passionate about ACC and can share more information with you later if you are interested
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/20/2023 9:52 PM
Yeah. Sure!
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seb it/they 04/20/2023 9:54 PM
if you give me a second i'll dm my friend about it
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i asked her, will send you her response
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/20/2023 9:56 PM
Thank you (edited)
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learning about AI controlled vagal nerve stimulator devices
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which is absolutely horrifying
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@Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) she offered to dig some resources up, but is also willing to DM to talk about it if you want
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/20/2023 10:38 PM
I'd prefer resources I can slowly digest, please.
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As in resources over dms, not a specific kind of resource sorry lol (edited)
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okie passed the message along
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tbh i think we should post them publically or in #medical-resources because lots of people could learn more about AAC
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(it's also AAC and not ACC, i'm just dyslexic and struggle with acronyms)
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but it's up to you
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/20/2023 10:42 PM
Yeah that makes more sense
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 11:24 PM
Had an allergic reaction today. Fuck Aramark catering for only caring about top 8 allergies. Threw off my whole day bc I had to take Benadryl and it kocked me out from 1 pm to 6:50 pm.
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Allergies can be the worst, does clemson only have a true balance too? (edited)
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 11:28 PM
Oh God now someone is smoking weed on my floor and I'm pretty allergic to that too 💀 what a fun day
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(nothing against weed just don't smoke it in a building with shared ventilation for goodness sake)
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oh gosh that blows i hope you feel better Aster
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Jonah Glover 04/20/2023 11:30 PM
4/20 nuts getting a little over the top the past couple of years
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 11:30 PM
Also yeah they have like a top 8 free station at the dining hall on the other side of campus and a gluten free one on this side
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ahh gotcha
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Jonah Glover 04/20/2023 11:31 PM
Someone outside my window is smoking out of an aluminum soda can 💀
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 11:31 PM
Which I don't have really bad allergies so I just wing it because the anxiety level of talking to the nutritionist person is too much 💀. I'm actually pretty much fine in the dining hall but the catering people tend to mess up outside of the top 8 a lot.
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/20/2023 11:31 PM
yeah we have aramark down here too
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and i just straight up watch them like switching spoons between vegan foods and meat all the time
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I had to stop eating student meal plan bc i was throwing up so frequently
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AsterTheDisaster 04/20/2023 11:35 PM
I get a free meal plan with the res life leadership stuff I do (not an RA phew) so free food is free 🙃
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and i just straight up watch them like switching spoons between vegan foods and meat all the time
Yes, or the stress of watching them sloppily scoop up food from one container and have bits of that food drop into other containers, we love to see it
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I get a free meal plan with the res life leadership stuff I do (not an RA phew) so free food is free 🙃
EXCUSE ?! Not only have they made us pay for housing, but here we have to pay for food as well. After accounting for mandatory housing costs to have the job, RMs at USC make far, far, far below minimum wage for the hours we have to put in. It’s mildly better next year because they’re desperate for people, but imagine free food ;-; (this is all not even remotely the point, but that rant is always near the surface, to be brought up at the most tangential provocation 💀) It being free doesn’t excuse the fact they’re doing a terrible job at allergen safety, you deserve better 🗡
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AsterTheDisaster 04/21/2023 12:07 AM
Yeah it's no excuse it's just why I'm still bothering with the system still and not just cooking my own food.
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What does RM stand for? Is that like RAs?
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What does RM stand for? Is that like RAs?
It’s Resident Mentor (a few years ago they decided to be quirky). The exact same job, just a different title. We’re going back to being Resident Assistants next year because no one knew what an RM was and god forbid our Housing department make up their mind (edited)
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AsterTheDisaster 04/21/2023 12:11 AM
Lol our res life is going to RCM residential community mentor. They took the desk job from Ras and made it a separate position.
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We had a whole talk in the job I'm doing about language that the school wants us to use for stuff when presenting Information
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Ah, RMs here did desk work before the pandemic for extra pay, but then it got turned into a separate position and now we have to work the desks a few hours a week included in our base salary of about $1k a year after housing costs (edited)
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That's how it was at clemson originally, you had to work 3 hrs a week included in salary but now it's a separate position but RAs can work as alternates and pick up shifts whenever
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"evil robin" BOT 04/21/2023 9:44 PM
me being uber depressed and suicidal im at home this weekend to see a play at my highschool, but also so my parents can take care of me because i know i won't be able to . but i ate vegetables for the first time in a while today which is good i guess . im annoyed that when im in episodes i have to be forced to eat and even then i pretty much only eat peanut butter and thats it . i feel like everything i do is a waste of time but also doing nothing is a waste of time . i just want ivy and vines to cover my body and to be absorbed into the earth .
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AsterTheDisaster 04/21/2023 9:54 PM
I'm sick again. Finals season is really taking me through the ringer. Also why make a presentation due a week before you're supposed to present it 💀
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My hearing loss is getting way worse in my right ear after i burst my ear drum last week aaaa its so frustrating
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Nico (she/her) 04/22/2023 12:46 PM
Seriously considering coming out to my parents on Monday but I know if I do the whole family will know and I'll be turned into the spokesperson for trans people during the holidays
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good luck if you do, i've not yet come out to my chilean family but they kinda know already
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Nico (she/her) 04/22/2023 12:53 PM
I also know I'll have to deal with (cw: abuse) verbal and/or physical abuse from my uncle who has explicitly threatened me if I ever turned out to be trans
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do you need community support/defense?
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if so we should move to dms or signal, but i'm sure that can be arranged
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Nico (she/her) 04/22/2023 12:55 PM
Not currently but I'll update if that changes
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tw ableism /child abuse(maybe I’m not sure if it counts) everytime I’ve proposed to my mother the very possibility I could be autistic her responses have ranged from no because I don’t act like her past students who were autistic or no because they would’ve diagnosed me as a child, and whenever I pushback she neglects me. But a lot of my child hood autistic traits i was punished for, like chewing my blankets or failure to make eye contact or repeating things from tv. I started thinking too hard about it and now I’m really upsetting I wish she would listen to me.
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also advice is very welcome here
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also advice is very welcome here
while i can't give much advice, i can maybe give you some sympathy in knowing that you're not alone. both my mother and my friend's mother are varying degrees of the same way, with my buddies mom acting nearly the exact same. my mom is much more understanding and hippie, but just doesn't know enough to really agree since I wasn't diagnosed
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Briefly had a phone call with her and she said she had no recollection of any of these conversations and just kept telling me to go back to sleep. she did suggest getting me screened so I guess that’s something
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tw ableism /child abuse(maybe I’m not sure if it counts) everytime I’ve proposed to my mother the very possibility I could be autistic her responses have ranged from no because I don’t act like her past students who were autistic or no because they would’ve diagnosed me as a child, and whenever I pushback she neglects me. But a lot of my child hood autistic traits i was punished for, like chewing my blankets or failure to make eye contact or repeating things from tv. I started thinking too hard about it and now I’m really upsetting I wish she would listen to me.
My own mother, who a lot of you met at Birdcage, is great about a lot of things. But a wall we keep hitting is that she refuses to believe or entertain the notion that I could have any of the mental health problems that she has, many other members of my family have, and whose symptoms I express to varying degrees. For me, it was better to just not bring those issues up and realise that my mother doesn’t have to be everything to me/be someone I can to go to for anything. We have fun and we love each other and I can lean on her for a lot, but that’s an aspect of my life that we don’t bring up around each other because we can’t see eye to eye and it’s too contentious. I’m okay with that and it’s a dynamic that works for us, but that’s just me. I don’t know if the same will work for you, but my relationship with my mother outside of that is good and that’s how I have decided to preserve it. It all depends on your own needs and boundaries and what you find acceptable in your own mother-child relationship.
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I think me and my mother are better apart because sometimes she doesn’t always get when I need comforting vs sternness
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AsterTheDisaster 04/23/2023 2:32 AM
Why does it seem like anti harassment policies at universities end up being turned against the people it's supposedly protecting. Like if we're trying to create a space for people to breath. Either that or sometimes I feel like if I do something or say something about certain instances that aren't big that they're going to take the university to court and it end up being taken away. Idk I'm always afraid of reporting a situation if it's so miniscule bc I'm afraid of that. Anyone else feel that? (edited)
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Why does it seem like anti harassment policies at universities end up being turned against the people it's supposedly protecting. Like if we're trying to create a space for people to breath. Either that or sometimes I feel like if I do something or say something about certain instances that aren't big that they're going to take the university to court and it end up being taken away. Idk I'm always afraid of reporting a situation if it's so miniscule bc I'm afraid of that. Anyone else feel that? (edited)
I kinda get it, reporting things is really hard and intimidating (likely on purpose) but it's kind of hard to get in big legal trouble for stuff like this in SC as we have no hate speech or even hardly hate crime (someone confirm?) laws. I think it's beneficial to get the university to realize we aren't messing around and this behavior is NOT welcomed by just as many who seem to support hatred if not more. If they won't listen to us maybe the threat of someone else getting involved will get the to actually care and take action, even if it loses them some conservative money. Boo hoo. Imagine how much $$ you could get from queer alum maybe if they felt wanted, or queer students feeling more welcomed to come to Clemson who wants to appease conservatives so bad am i interpreting your message right? no worries if not! ❤️ (edited)
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I keep procrastinating my school work I'm very behind on to help with OAT because I care more about OAT and also Clemson makes us feel not wanted 😭 any advice is welcome ❤️
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I tried to set a time limit on how much oat work I could do in a fay
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I blew past that limit
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But i tried ;-;
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I keep procrastinating my school work I'm very behind on to help with OAT because I care more about OAT and also Clemson makes us feel not wanted 😭 any advice is welcome ❤️
robin (they/it) 04/23/2023 2:40 PM
i do the same thing lol
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Tomorrow's the day 🥹👍 I hope everything goes well
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seb it/they 04/23/2023 8:16 PM
Still too anxious to do my own T shot :/
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AsterTheDisaster 04/23/2023 9:40 PM
Having skin allergies is obnoxious. I go to a isle of products, find that my safe item is out of stock and have to spend half an hour reading other bottles or deodorant sticks to find one that may or may not irritate my skin. Usually I'm good at keeping up and having stock but my skin just randomly choses to stop letting me use certain things. And then having to factor in the whole gendered personal care stuff its just so frustrating. We do not need 50 million "ocean breeze" flavors of body wash. And most of its a sensory nightmare too. One of my biggest personal grievances with the idea that capitalism breeds innovation is the stupidity of the personal care isles at store.
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I currently feel like the scum of the earth
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I currently feel like the scum of the earth
same
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Hailey (she/they) 04/25/2023 12:00 AM
Same
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seb it/they 04/25/2023 9:02 AM
I am mostly likely going to take a 48-72 hour hiatus in oat, i've had some chronic health stuff come up quite seriously and quite suddenly and may need some help/mutual aid
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seb it/they
I am mostly likely going to take a 48-72 hour hiatus in oat, i've had some chronic health stuff come up quite seriously and quite suddenly and may need some help/mutual aid
take all the time and space you need ❤️ we're here for you. thanks for all your hard work and energy recently, it means a lot to so many ppl. sorry if this counts as unsolicited advice haha
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// ableism Someone on twitter just told me to “try aba and see how I feel” Normally I don’t care it’s Twitter dot cum but like wtf
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I’m so sorry Cyprus that’s awful :(((
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WhichWitch17 04/25/2023 1:09 PM
Ew that’s so disgusting. People are terrible sometimes. Sorry Cyprus
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// ableism Someone on twitter just told me to “try aba and see how I feel” Normally I don’t care it’s Twitter dot cum but like wtf
sorry, what's that? googling just brought up a bunch of acronyms that didn't seem fitting (edited)
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Applied behavior analysis
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BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 1:20 PM
autism therapy that’s super harmful
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it’s basically about trying to rid people of certain behaviors
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sorry, what's that? googling just brought up a bunch of acronyms that didn't seem fitting (edited)
It’s basically conditioning to stop people from expressing behaviours associated with autism to make them more “normal”, from what I understand
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applied behavior analysis? is that what is stands for?
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yes
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gotcha thanks, I hadn't heard the term before. yeah, that's absolutely awful (edited)
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Negative reinforcement is a tool used in ABA to enforce masking behaviors. This negative reinforcement commonly includes electric shock therapy
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Negative reinforcement is a tool used in ABA to enforce masking behaviors. This negative reinforcement commonly includes electric shock therapy
with minimal to no regulation or protections it seems 😦 is it specifically for autism/ASD or can be used more broadly to cover conversion therapies in general?
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the judge rotenberg center is one of the more notorious examples of truly despicable ABA practicioners the wikipedia page covers some of the horrors, and there's a few behind the bastards episodes covering the history https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judge_Rotenberg_Educational_Center https://open.spotify.com/episode/1m4kkW6YmhgFUj8enP5FRI https://open.spotify.com/episode/0O0XJOhWLj5k8SgHhaiMGo
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Can anyone help me formulate an email to my professors? I'm struggling badly and not getting much better and the semester is ending :/ This is what i have so far: I wanted to send an email to my professors to update on my situation and plans for the semester. Thanks so much for all the understanding and grace you have given me so far. I haven’t gotten much better and have really been struggling to do work while debilitatingly sick. At this point I'm considering incompletes now or just failing/finishing where I am
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with minimal to no regulation or protections it seems 😦 is it specifically for autism/ASD or can be used more broadly to cover conversion therapies in general?
BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 1:26 PM
it’s mainly used on autistic kids but the tenets of ABA get turned into PBIS and used in virtually all public schools, usually only autistic kids get put in the therapy outright
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Can anyone help me formulate an email to my professors? I'm struggling badly and not getting much better and the semester is ending :/ This is what i have so far: I wanted to send an email to my professors to update on my situation and plans for the semester. Thanks so much for all the understanding and grace you have given me so far. I haven’t gotten much better and have really been struggling to do work while debilitatingly sick. At this point I'm considering incompletes now or just failing/finishing where I am
i'd email each professor individually and update the language accordingly maybe something like the following:
Dear {professor name}, I am emailing you to update you on my situation and plans for the semester. Thank you so much for all the understanding and grace you have given me so far. I have not gotten much better and have really been struggling to do work while debilitatingly sick. At this point I'm considering incompletes now or just failing/finishing where I am.
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you can leave the text exactly the same, i just know some people don't like to be included on mass emails like that
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House members are over an hour late to their own meeting I am so bored and not paying attention that I accidentally meowed aloud in the committee meeting room ;-;
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BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 1:45 PM
a whole mood
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Thankfully the lobbyists around me are all talking about the dresses they got from Target and a vacation to Monticello and getting their hair re-highlighted lol, don’t think I made a fool of myself But I know what I did I know
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House members are over an hour late to their own meeting I am so bored and not paying attention that I accidentally meowed aloud in the committee meeting room ;-;
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 1:46 PM
omw to publish a new article called "SC going WOKE????" litterboxes in comittee!
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BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 1:46 PM
sometimes I meow in public, sometimes I accidentally echo a long past conversation out loud and it’s something so random like “i TOLD them to get a large” (edited)
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No literally, it’s worst when my mind wanders and I’m not actively thinking
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House members are over an hour late to their own meeting I am so bored and not paying attention that I accidentally meowed aloud in the committee meeting room ;-;
"""accidentally""""
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Thankfully the lobbyists around me are all talking about the dresses they got from Target and a vacation to Monticello and getting their hair re-highlighted lol, don’t think I made a fool of myself But I know what I did I know
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 1:46 PM
this is the bougiest fucking sentence ive ever heard in my life
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LET ME LIVE, LIV
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robin (they/it) 04/25/2023 1:47 PM
i echo random things a lot. ive echoed people who im in a conversation with and it sounds like im mocking them but i dont mean to
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BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 1:48 PM
I dont know if I can call mine echolalia because it’s almost entirely mental but I think it’s a very related phenomenon
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I could just be heavily masking regular echolalia which is why it’s only verbal sometimes
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this is the bougiest fucking sentence ive ever heard in my life
You would not believe the things I hear here These are the “upper middle class” I hear so much about, people with extensive disposable incomes making in the lower six digits a year and don’t have to worry about money
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But they’re not rich, they’re “comfortable”
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I want to cry Some new woman came in and a new conversation started about one woman’s kid going off to college And straight up the one who just got done with college tours laughed when she was talking about how excited her daughter was and said “wait until she finds out I’m only giving her $3k a month”
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Like that’s a punishment
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The gossip you can overhear with chatty lobbyist moms is wild
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 1:57 PM
what
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3k
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Oh my god now they’re talking about paying to renovate their child’s school’s gym And complimenting pictures of each other’s children, that part is cute
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Had a collective yikes over a mullet moment 😂
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 1:57 PM
i thought you said 3k a year and i was like "yeah i guess thats better than none (what i get), but its not a lot"
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A MONTH
I KNOW
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/25/2023 1:58 PM
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Was the mom cute?
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That’s more than I make in a year as an RM and is over twice what I make in a month working 20hrs a week on top of being a student and having a campus job
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 2:00 PM
this is literally just a full ride
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and then some
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this is almost as much money as my mother makes
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/25/2023 2:00 PM
More than I make
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Was the mom cute?
She kind of looks like a slightly older Nicola Coughlan, late 30s - 40s
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this is literally just a full ride
I assume this is also with her paying for their college as well
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 2:01 PM
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nooooo
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it cant be
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She kind of looks like a slightly older Nicola Coughlan, late 30s - 40s
A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/25/2023 2:01 PM
Okay, I'll send you my number if you'll pass it along /j
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 2:01 PM
what the hell would you even spend that on
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Alcohol, drugs, rich people things?
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 2:02 PM
guillotine time
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It scares me that there are people living in such a completely different world from the one I have ever known (edited)
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And this is like . . . not uncommon. There’s way less of them, but this is like, lower-class rich people nonsense. The fact there are also people with more than that is absurd and disgusting tbh, if you do t mind my saying so
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/25/2023 2:05 PM
I was actually thinking this morning how when I was in HS I had so many ppl telling me "well at least you qualify for financial aid." One literally happened at a debutante dinner (I was an escort, I know I know). That's these ppl. (edited)
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No literally. If I wasn’t a first generation college student from a poor household who worked myself way too hard in high school and ended up having to choose to give up opportunities at better universities for the scholarships and saving of an in-state school that had programs for people like me, I wouldn’t be able to afford college at all. I got very lucky and it’s infuriating that not only was it hard for me, but there are others who also worked hard and are in way worse positions in a screwy game of chance rigged by people who don’t have to play, they just win
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Carrie (she/her) 04/25/2023 2:12 PM
Amen
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/25/2023 2:13 PM
Yo are y'all being serious? b/c I meow for real and I need to know I'm not alone lol (I have nervous ticks, tbc) (edited)
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i have buddies that started meowing in conversation as a joke but then it became a tic for 3 of them
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im the only one with tics that hasn't picked it up yet
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No literally. If I wasn’t a first generation college student from a poor household who worked myself way too hard in high school and ended up having to choose to give up opportunities at better universities for the scholarships and saving of an in-state school that had programs for people like me, I wouldn’t be able to afford college at all. I got very lucky and it’s infuriating that not only was it hard for me, but there are others who also worked hard and are in way worse positions in a screwy game of chance rigged by people who don’t have to play, they just win
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/25/2023 2:15 PM
its stings so bad yeah. i got into my 2nd choice school and ended up not being able to go because they wanted 70,000 a year
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
this is literally just a full ride
this is more than my mother makes in a year and she supports a 7 person household
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seb it/they 04/25/2023 2:17 PM
I also meow as a stim
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seb it/they 04/25/2023 2:18 PM
I also go rawr
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BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 2:18 PM
I meow to talk to cats but I’ve done it often enough that it feels normal to do with no cats around as well
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if you don't meow back at your cat then you're not a real cat owner
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Camryn Aisling 04/25/2023 2:19 PM
My family used to be part of that "upper middle class," but then everything crashed down around us during the recession and we had a collective awakening.
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BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 2:19 PM
I did a poll of my high school to see how many meow at cats compared to growling/barking back at their dogs and way more said they did it to dogs which was weird
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I guess it’s because more people have dogs but it feels a lot more intuitive to meow at a cat
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I do mimic my dogs growl and whine at her and it’s fun (not when she’s actually distressed)
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I guess it’s because more people have dogs but it feels a lot more intuitive to meow at a cat
I'm a nerd on this but if you included a question asking "do you own a cat or dog?" you could definitely control for this (edited)
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the thing about if more people own dogs than people who own cats
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BenjaminIsaac 04/25/2023 3:17 PM
it was on facebook so I couldn’t separate the answers too much
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we just had a polls page for things
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I make noise all the time as a stim or reaction to stress/inconvenience and my partner always calls it meowing. so i think i meow too 😂 . he'll be like "what you meowing about" and im like 😠
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/25/2023 4:10 PM
So stimming sounds like a more appropriate term for what I do, since they are compulsory and not involuntary. I keep learning new things here lol
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robin (they/it) 04/25/2023 4:11 PM
i have a stim my best friend calls catfish breathing
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/26/2023 10:17 AM
Take a shot every time i get misgendered while doing this damn drug screening
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Probably over 20 by now without exaggeration
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Legislation working its way through that will protect things like Airbnb just as yesterday a committee (the one with the rich lobbyists) essentially killed a bill that would promote affordable housing creation and cost controls. One thing that just felt infuriating was some woman who owns properties she rents out as airbnbs defending it and saying her city was dead before them and how much better things are and how much money people can make by renting out their property and buying more. These people exist and they speak up and it’s horrifying
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 04/26/2023 10:59 AM
"I helped gentrify this city, please dont stop this parasitic gravey train from spreading! D: "
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
Take a shot every time i get misgendered while doing this damn drug screening
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/26/2023 11:12 AM
didnt even get a fucking drug test
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waste of 2 goddamn hours
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how? I've never had a drug test take more than a few minutes
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/26/2023 11:44 AM
medical reasons and im leaving it at that
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
medical reasons and im leaving it at that
I'm sorry, i sympathize empathize(?) I always have issues with them too 😦 (edited)
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seb it/they 04/26/2023 4:04 PM
my mom is trying to be supportive about me trying to get gender affirming care, but every time she tries to be supportive she just ends up being really controlling
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idk how to get her to understand that she can support me without trying to take control of the entire process
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seb it/they
idk how to get her to understand that she can support me without trying to take control of the entire process
robin (they/it) 04/26/2023 4:06 PM
do you want advice ?
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seb it/they 04/26/2023 4:07 PM
meh kinda, could you spoiler it so i can wait until later to read it?
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robin (they/it) 04/26/2023 4:08 PM
"thank you for your support but i think ive got it under control" or "the help i need right now is x, y, z..." maybe be direct with what you want/need even if that is nothing. this is what ive been doing with my family recently
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seb it/they 04/26/2023 4:09 PM
oh lo lthat doesn't work with my mom
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she gets offended at that
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we're also still playing the "am i disowned or not" game
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seb it/they 04/26/2023 6:02 PM
there are over 5,000 cards that i have had to memorize for my anatomy class this year
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this exam is going to be hell, it's cumulative and there could be literally any of this on it
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cade (he/him) 04/26/2023 6:05 PM
good luck, i’m sure you’ll do better than you think you will! transheart (edited)
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Received my notice to appear in court over a traffic violation yippee
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Cyprus when she’s being arraigned
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cade (he/him) 04/26/2023 7:49 PM
that’s a lot for a traffic violation 😭 i hope it all goes well
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cade (he/him)
that’s a lot for a traffic violation 😭 i hope it all goes well
It never specified the violation 👀
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Failure to obey a traffic control advice is what they’re citing me for
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Cyprus ran over a meter maid
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Cyprus ran over a meter maid
A-A-Ron (they/them) 04/26/2023 8:36 PM
Allegedly*
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I feel shit, everything around me feels shit. I don't know what to do. I've basically given up on finishing the semester right now. I'm not okay. and it feels like no one cares, like my bosses, professors, or advisors. But hey at least I'm hella medicated right? cause it's obviously helping /s 🫠
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seb it/they 04/27/2023 1:04 PM
Here if you need to vent/talk
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I'm about to go into a presentation though
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Thank you ❤️ no worries rn, good luck
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i havent eaten all day yet and it’s giving me a headache but i just randomly received this 😭 I don't love these types of cookies but i'ma eat it. i needed that. it had ingredients on the back and all ❤️ (edited)
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I feel shit, everything around me feels shit. I don't know what to do. I've basically given up on finishing the semester right now. I'm not okay. and it feels like no one cares, like my bosses, professors, or advisors. But hey at least I'm hella medicated right? cause it's obviously helping /s 🫠
James Harley 04/27/2023 3:12 PM
I honestly feel the same way ngl
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I think for me it’s also that I’ve overworked myself this semester
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I made a 65 on a final ;-;
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robin (they/it) 04/28/2023 10:25 AM
you are not your grades
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cade (he/him) 04/28/2023 10:39 AM
about every job i’ve had has pointed out that i work slower than other ppl there, and i know it’s true; but i always try and still always feel like a burden on the rest of my team because of it :^/
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Thomas Aquinas, who is considered the greatest theologian in the RC Church, was nicknamed "the dumb ox" by his classmates because he took so long to develop his arguments. He was the tortoise to all the hares who thought they would be superstars. We don't know their names.
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To be less eloquent: fuck the haters 💅
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Nico (she/her) 04/28/2023 1:13 PM
I have a canker sore and it's making my jaw problems worse than usual and eating anything hurts really bad ☹
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There is an extra tooth growing behind my front teeth that problematic and painful that I’ll have to have removed
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have to scrounge up a bunch of energy to do laundry tonight
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regan-they
have to scrounge up a bunch of energy to do laundry tonight
me too
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Nerak1 Dave 04/28/2023 9:44 PM
Laundry is evil.
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tbh dishes are the worst for me. i recently splurged on a portable dishwasher. best investment
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dishes are bad snensory experience
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My extensive wardrobe is the only reason I’ve gotten away with not doing laundry for a month, but we’re coming up on more and more out-there wardrobe choices as we hit the limit of clean and semi-clean clothes ;-; Just need to make it to Monday and it’s all over
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i for one enjoy your outfits no matter what it is
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James Harley 04/28/2023 10:57 PM
Same here
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Dishes are about the only thing worse than laundry. Portable dishwashers are da bomb. Small ones though are only half as useful as full sized ones.
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Dishes are about the only thing worse than laundry. Portable dishwashers are da bomb. Small ones though are only half as useful as full sized ones.
James Harley 04/29/2023 12:24 AM
I second that cause I do all my dishes by hand since the start of last semester and that’s more time and energy consuming than laundry unless you wash the clothes by hand, then it’s comparable.
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yeah laundry is just waiting around and then finding the motivation to fold everything, dishes is more active energy usage
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i subvert both by doing my laundry, and while waiting, doing the dishes if i can. usually though, I do dishes when I'm waiting for something while cooking (boiling water, simmering, etc)
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i have long forgone folding
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Seeing all these bills on the internet basically advocating for the genocide of trans people has me so incredibly tired
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My extensive wardrobe is the only reason I’ve gotten away with not doing laundry for a month, but we’re coming up on more and more out-there wardrobe choices as we hit the limit of clean and semi-clean clothes ;-; Just need to make it to Monday and it’s all over
either0rgans 04/29/2023 5:14 PM
I handwash sometimes, it is a pain getting all the soap out tho
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Also just realized the conversation I staggered into and I apologize yeah ..this shit kinda fucked my whole life up
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puppygirl blair 04/29/2023 5:17 PM
Can relate
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either0rgans 04/29/2023 5:18 PM
The things going on I'm saying I'm the government, it's like witnessing the whymar (I can't spell) republic start to go
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In the government I meant
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seb it/they 04/29/2023 5:18 PM
Weimar
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You are the government
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either0rgans 04/29/2023 5:18 PM
But the violence is gonna be carried out by civilians
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The genocidal violence
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Could you Spoiler that
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You are the government
either0rgans 04/29/2023 5:19 PM
Prove it
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Sorry but every time I say prove it jokingly it's in reference to this
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either0rgans 04/29/2023 5:50 PM
I make simple memes sometimes mostly frm Google feed clickbait but today I was gonna do one from a square showing security footage but it's like...they want that shared
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Was a local thing
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Part of me knew this prob but like I guess law enforcement caught on (which it isn't hard to) and realized mundane stories get spread quick. not sure if that makes sense
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i have an account for like 15 years, and ive exclusively only logged in via steam bc why would i use their website?? there is zero way i can remember things from that long ago. *note: I assume it'd be martin, ie game of thrones man, but no. and not tolkien, jordan, i even tried rowling alt id: Screenshot, "Reset Password" 'Error the answer you provided does not match our records' "Please answer security question and click 'continue'" 'What is the last name of your favorite author?' Then a blank answer box and a continue button
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/30/2023 1:45 PM
injections, self hate i couldnt do my injection and i feel like a miserable fucking failure
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Hayden (he/they) 04/30/2023 1:49 PM
Tw; hate against the unhoused Had some jack off park ranger in Finlay today telling us we couldn't feed people. New guy, wanted to argue with us and the homeless. When I asked him to cite which rule I was breaking, he got frustrated and then folded lol. It was annoying to here him talk all this anti-homeless crap in the rain.
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
injections, self hate i couldnt do my injection and i feel like a miserable fucking failure
ColorfulKnoll 04/30/2023 1:57 PM
They can be hard to do, but they get easier as you get more used to them you've got this
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
injections, self hate i couldnt do my injection and i feel like a miserable fucking failure
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/30/2023 1:57 PM
i feel sick, and every single time a delay happens my anxiety blows it up until i feel like im never going to transition
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ColorfulKnoll 04/30/2023 2:02 PM
I know this is a no advice channel, but if you do want some advice I've been taking injections for awhile and have a few tricks I use. My DMs are open (edited)
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/30/2023 2:04 PM
i dont really want to talk about it right now
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maybe later
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ColorfulKnoll 04/30/2023 2:04 PM
That's understandable, I hope you feel better
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spoiler mostly bc unsolicited advice ab hating needles You're a woman regardless of transition or hormone status 😦 (sorry im not sure how exactly to word it, I'm very brain-foggy rn) but I couldn't imagine ever doing that. I struggle even with an epi-pen, and have never succeeded. that's easily so incredibly hard to do on your own. I'm insulin resistant taking metformin for years and have never pricked my fingers or anything to ever check my blood sugar. I won't even hardly help at animal shelters, vets, or my own pets to draw blood, or administer shots, i just don't like needles. i don't even have a vasovagal response to blood or needles or anything. pls don't feel too bad 😦 I would probably even struggle to help a friend with theirs even tho logically i would want to do that so bad?? (edited)
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 04/30/2023 3:04 PM
i might try buying an autoinjector
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robin (they/it) 04/30/2023 8:57 PM
getting cat called makes me dysphoric and sad and also powerless but thats the whole point . on top of getting cat called and all the bad feelings that causes im also reminded that not everyone sees me as the creature i am . ive been cat called 3 times this week and its been a little rough
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Carrie (she/her) 04/30/2023 9:00 PM
I'm sorry
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AsterTheDisaster 04/30/2023 10:38 PM
Exam week is this week at Clemson and I've lost all motivation.
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same
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got an exam, a project and then a paper to do by this Wednesday (edited)
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i hate it here
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was spinning my hand in a circle and going “vrvrvrvrvr” like a whirring noise and someone saw me I’m a little mortified because I’m about to present
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did not do so hot I was very nervous
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regan-they
did not do so hot I was very nervous
I never do, I feel that so much. It's okay ❤️ public speaking is hard af (edited)
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I have a speech class next semester so hopefully I can improve
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ColorfulKnoll 05/01/2023 10:52 PM
People really need to learn not to talk about others appearance
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Update I don’t have an extra tooth coming in I have gingivitis
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/02/2023 5:55 PM
Nothing like my parents arguing over relationship cheating because my dad got a text saying “love you” all while im on the phone with them (edited)
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 10:35 AM
Potential talk of transphobia? Just a small vent the idea of news articles highlighting diy hrt makes me a bit uncomfy as it could very well become the target of conservatives ire. (edited)
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no yr so right actually
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it is concerning
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yeah there's nothing wrong with diy hrt, but it does seem like something cis people are going to weaponize against us, just like the weaponize being trans at all
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 10:42 AM
I don't like it at all, especially since it's a last resort for many people
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REAL ASF like the people accessing diy hrt r already super vulnerable
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full agree
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I think that's why it's important to protect it as an option/fight for it's validity
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While also fighting for non diy options
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Everything should be widely available
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 10:44 AM
Agreed, I'd also love to see the FDA offical approve HRT for trans health care but I don't know how feasible that is
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If it happened it'd essentially have the entire missouri issue settled and prevent any copy cat orders
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Yeah having studied the FDA for my major i am not confident in them
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They are little shitweasels
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 10:51 AM
Ugh, terrible
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Yeah having studied the FDA for my major i am not confident in them
are they international or just for the USA?
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 2:43 PM
If i remember correctly the FDA is national but carries some international weight
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Camryn Aisling 05/03/2023 3:08 PM
The FDA, legally speaking, only has authority in the united states
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But uh
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Oh
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I just saw the response above me
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Yeah, basically that
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thanks y'all ❤️
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 05/03/2023 3:42 PM
Just found out I was having my last meeting with my counselor b/c she's changing jobs and I have no idea when they'll assign me another while I'm going through a lot of really bad flashbacks b/c of shit w/ my family rn and now. I really liked her and now I feel so exposed and aimless again.
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seb it/they 05/03/2023 5:55 PM
ik community support is not the same as a therapist, but i've had PTSD my whole life and my dms are open to listen/support if you need it (edited)
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae)
Just found out I was having my last meeting with my counselor b/c she's changing jobs and I have no idea when they'll assign me another while I'm going through a lot of really bad flashbacks b/c of shit w/ my family rn and now. I really liked her and now I feel so exposed and aimless again.
I went through the same recently, my therapist got relocated 😦
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cade (he/him) 05/03/2023 9:17 PM
the news feels like it somehow still keeps getting worse over the last year, it’s been hard to keep up with and sort of disassociating at this point
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seb it/they 05/03/2023 9:37 PM
I've had to totally disconnect myself from the news
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It's both good and bad but much better for my brain
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 10:12 PM
So specifically for advice here, I dont know where else to put this, but my pharmacy messed up charging for my medication they never charged me for it but I have the receipt and it says paid for on the website. Should I report it? What's the moral situation, like one side of me says report it so no one gets in trouble, the other side of me says run off and screw the pharmaceutical companies
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/03/2023 10:14 PM
morally, fuck them
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its a company, they could shrug off giving away free meds for weeks
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 10:15 PM
Kind of worried about the pharmacist who did the check out tho, cause he was kind of the first pharmacist not to be awkward about it (edited)
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/03/2023 10:15 PM
he'll get a slap on the wrist
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pharmacy is a very high-skill position with high educational requirements, they wont sweat this enough to fire someone that hard to replace, if they even notice (edited)
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 10:16 PM
Well that's good at least, hopefully it doesn't cause any hard feelings in the long run
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yeah no worries it won't affect him personally all that much and sounds like maybe a machine/connection issue as well, nothing on you. just say you never even noticed, most people don't even check their accounts for stuff like that surprisingly
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ColorfulKnoll 05/03/2023 11:02 PM
I just happened to notice cause I was transferring between accounts and saw more money that I thought
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Since even with insurance my estradiol still cost a good sum (edited)
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My parents are overwhelming me with talk about finding me a councilor to undo the trans. I know I leave tomorrow but it's still stressing me out. In addition, the stress of preparing for tomorrow is doing a number on me. My parents keep telling me to be open with them but the last time I was actually open resulted in the situation I'm in now (edited)
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Original message was deleted or could not be loaded.
Can you censor the parts for the TW?
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Idk how
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Let me try
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I think I may
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All you have to do is add || on either side of the text to censor
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Or if you’re on mobile, you can highlight it and Mark As Spoiler is an option
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This is totally un trans related. TW: childhood sexual abuse. I was abused by a 25 year old starting when I was 13 and it didn’t end until I was 18. I realized that I wasn’t just in a relationship with an older guy, I was being abused and groomed, so I decided about 6-8 months ago to press charges. I had to get evidence, so I made him confess over Snapchat. After months of working with the detective, I got an email today saying that my abuser officially has a warrant out for his arrest and he arranged to turn himself in. I’m having a lot of mixed emotions about it. Anger, pain, relief, depression, and grief of my deprived childhood. But most of all I feel like I did it. Even if he’s not convicted with criminal sexual conduct with a minor second degree and he only gets assault and battery- I fucking did it. I stood against my abuser, years of abuse, and I took action to ensure he can’t harm another child. And for that I am proud. But there’s a part of me that wishes he could get the full charges. Maybe he will be able to. Either way I’m going to be blasting him all over social media so people know he’s a sexual predator. What his original charges were. Thanks for letting me vent
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Thank you very much, sorry for the inconvenience
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Nico (she/her) 05/05/2023 12:24 AM
It turns out my mom hasn't been taking the whole, me being trans thing, very well, she's now in therapy because of it, and it looks like her and my dad are gonna try to talk my out of it
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seb it/they 05/05/2023 7:09 AM
I'm sorry that really sucks Nico
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/05/2023 11:42 AM
the trans space that i spend the most time in outside OAT just banned any and all discussion of DIY HRT and it feels like im the only voice of reason
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a particular fuck you to the pharmacy tech in training who is pretending like they're the sum total of all medical research ever and made this happen
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My mom got this new security system and it freaks me out so much. Today my mom told me she could literally hear me while I was looking for something through the app. It has like facial recognition stuff and eugh I just hate it (edited)
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ColorfulKnoll 05/05/2023 1:26 PM
That's a big yikes, That really sucks
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/05/2023 1:31 PM
thats the absolute worst. my parents bought security cameras and microphones to spy on me when i lived with them. i know one family who bouight IR cameras and put them on all entrances and exits so they could track their kids at night
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That’s so awful ugh
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i am going to explode
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i cannot do this transphobia from my dad rn
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HMMM I WONDER WHY IM NOT OUT TO HIM
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i need help with countering him bc its near impossible
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seb it/they 05/05/2023 3:51 PM
here to help
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what bullshit is he spewing now
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i will fight
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Hayden (he/they) 05/05/2023 3:54 PM
Time to black bag Rob
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*robb but yea
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tw: transphobia: dylan mulvaney being a grifter, trans kids shouldnt get hormones or blockers, there are too my trans ppl now, its all a grift to get ppl to spend money on hormones and surgeries
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im too tired to counter him rn
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seb it/they 05/05/2023 3:56 PM
tbh would countering him change his mind?
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i honestly dont know
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seb it/they 05/05/2023 3:56 PM
if you don't think it would then it's probably not worth the energy
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you could also try to recruit your mom
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he says all this and then says “i dont care what ppl do i just dont wanna hear about it all the time” and “companies are too woke these days”
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seb it/they 05/05/2023 3:57 PM
ugh what an asshole
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ColorfulKnoll 05/05/2023 3:58 PM
So basically he just doesn't want lgbt representation in media at all.
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Hayden (he/they) 05/05/2023 4:00 PM
Take his grad ticket
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cade (he/him) 05/05/2023 10:23 PM
allergies sorta have me feeling like spongebob when he had the suds
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Camryn Aisling 05/05/2023 10:37 PM
Oh god, same
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ColorfulKnoll 05/07/2023 4:08 PM
My fucking boyfriend cheated on me
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seb it/they 05/08/2023 9:45 AM
i get to meet with the professor i work with and tell him once again i've done nothing
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I went to do some chore for my aunt and parents yesterday. got dead named all day and then my aunt made a dumb joke, like 'he doesn't identify as a deadname he does as a Kiral' and it just ruined my week so far 🙃
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robin (they/it) 05/08/2023 12:17 PM
when i get really depressed i can only eat peanut butter and jelly. like even if other things are available and easy to get peanut butter and jelly is easier to eat. and we didnt have any bread so i just ate peanut butter and jelly out of a bowl.
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my email should not exist if you dont know me enough that it would be normal for you to text me then you should not try to contact me
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hot takes with robin
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robin (they/it)
when i get really depressed i can only eat peanut butter and jelly. like even if other things are available and easy to get peanut butter and jelly is easier to eat. and we didnt have any bread so i just ate peanut butter and jelly out of a bowl.
cade (he/him) 05/08/2023 12:22 PM
there’s way worse comfort foods, on the brightside you’d do well on the show big brother 💀 sometimes they have to eat nothing but pb&j’s for weeks
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ColorfulKnoll 05/08/2023 1:54 PM
Cw, legal recreational drug use Does anyone know anything about how CBD interacts with HRT? I know it shuts down production of natural estrogen and T and it encourages quicker break down. But since hrt is synthetic and self administered I don't know if I should stay away from it or not
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I use synthetic cannaboids (hhc, delta 8) and i havent had any problems nor heard of any general problems with its interactions ^reply
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My parents keep emailing me and it's making me upset
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seb it/they 05/08/2023 8:40 PM
You can block email addresses too
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when you eat one of your favorite fruits for this first time in a while and it makes your mouth and ears feel weird
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Goddamn alarm didn’t go off
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cade (he/him) 05/09/2023 8:24 AM
oh i HATE when that happens, like you tried and do what ya could but one single clock said nuh huh
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ColorfulKnoll 05/09/2023 9:11 AM
Less of a vent and more of a reaching out if that's allowed, but since my ex cheated on me I kind of lost the only close friend in SC I had, so if anyone wants to build a new friendship my messages are open
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my car decided to be awful and have problems again and the local dealership wont be able to just take it in until beginning of june and other dealerships keep sending me to voicemails (edited)
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love it
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robin (they/it) 05/09/2023 12:04 PM
im a problem for my psychiatrist because im immune to depression meds and i dont have enough friends who get me out of the house
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cw transphobia cis friend I’ve had since high school is buddy-buddy with some truly vile and hateful outspoken terfs (not like crypto-terfs either, I mean like accounts where that’s their whole entire thing) on twitter despite her having lots of trans friends irl and never being disrespectful to any of us as far as I know… it’s a really weird thing to see and makes me wonder how she’s seemingly so fine with entertaining and being friendly with people online who wouldn’t hesitate to harass me and other people she’s close with in real life? and makes me wonder how deep the two-faced-ness goes, like if she’s just been making fun of people like me in private conversations the whole time
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mystic_darkwing 05/09/2023 1:45 PM
even if shes supportive of you shes still complicit to violence against you im sorry you have to deal with that
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hate doing my E injection
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i have injured my foot, woe is me
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robin (they/it) 05/09/2023 9:33 PM
was your foot hurt by the desk table?
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seb it/they 05/09/2023 9:34 PM
Yes
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robin (they/it)
was your foot hurt by the desk table?
yes i flipped it over without shoes on and the rest is history
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mystic_darkwing 05/09/2023 10:06 PM
cw for hate crime a while ago in january or february one of my best friends was hate crimed and put in the icu by a person at my place school, his uncle, and his uncles friend. as of now my friend is only just now able to walk again with crutches and is coming back to school like once or twice a week and STILL they have only arrested one person and the kid who goes to my school hasnt even been suspended and still goes every day. i hate living in rural south carolina
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cade (he/him) 05/09/2023 10:07 PM
oh my god that’s terrible
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That is so terrifying, I hope you both can escape this situation someday. I wish your friend a speedy recovery, and I wish you both safety
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If you all ever need anything don’t hesitate to reach out
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mystic_darkwing 05/09/2023 10:11 PM
thanks means a lot, i was thinking about it today and its insane in hindsight that myself and a bunch of other high schoolers spent weeks we should have been in class advocating to a school of adults and still nothing has changed. its manageable levels of queer phobia but its rising quickly and im genuinely terrified for next year when me and the other maybe four people actually working for change graduate.
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cade (he/him) 05/09/2023 10:21 PM
all i can say is keep up the fight, don’t let a lack of change make you feel like there’s still not a need for one because nobody, let alone students, should be worried about their safety for just being themselves
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AsterTheDisaster 05/10/2023 12:48 AM
Was so excited to get to see my parents. So far the entire time I've been home all they've done is fight. And then, ironically they fight about who's fighting is pushing me further away from them. 🧍
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17 days
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That's all I've got to get through
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thanks means a lot, i was thinking about it today and its insane in hindsight that myself and a bunch of other high schoolers spent weeks we should have been in class advocating to a school of adults and still nothing has changed. its manageable levels of queer phobia but its rising quickly and im genuinely terrified for next year when me and the other maybe four people actually working for change graduate.
seb it/they 05/10/2023 7:37 AM
Would it be helpful if you and your friends could have access to pepper spray? And possibly a class on how to use it?
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mystic_darkwing 05/10/2023 7:43 AM
yeah bjt i haven't been able to find anything in my area i feel safe going to
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seb it/they 05/10/2023 7:45 AM
I'm wondering if OAT could set something up
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If you want to hop over to #mutual-aid we can talk through something
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Was so excited to get to see my parents. So far the entire time I've been home all they've done is fight. And then, ironically they fight about who's fighting is pushing me further away from them. 🧍
you can do it. its hard and ive been there but i believe in u
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failed my drug test 🙃
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ColorfulKnoll 05/10/2023 7:11 PM
Just one thing I want to thank yall for, thanks for running out my ex when he was here he deserved it
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i was eating some toast, peanut butter and cut up bananas with cinnamon and i just inhaled so much cinnamon and now my nose is burning :)
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Burnt my tongue trying to enjoy tea
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cw stalking, harassment my ex has been stalking me online and her friends have been actively enabling her. I joined a public discord server and not even a week later she was in it, whenever I joined voice chat she would join within minutes after me specifically because I was there. one time she got a bunch of her friends to join as well so it was just me and a bunch of her friends in vc and I was just supposed to deal with it. all of this despite the fact that I already told her as far back as march not to interact with me or my friends. we broke up almost 2 months ago and it's sometimes overwhelming to me that she is actively trying to intimidate me and keep me from living a normal life.
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mystic_darkwing 05/10/2023 10:54 PM
that's really scary to live with, im sorry you have to deal with that
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that’s awful im so sorry
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seb it/they 05/11/2023 6:10 AM
If your ex ever tries to join in here please let me or another mod know
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cw stalking, harassment my ex has been stalking me online and her friends have been actively enabling her. I joined a public discord server and not even a week later she was in it, whenever I joined voice chat she would join within minutes after me specifically because I was there. one time she got a bunch of her friends to join as well so it was just me and a bunch of her friends in vc and I was just supposed to deal with it. all of this despite the fact that I already told her as far back as march not to interact with me or my friends. we broke up almost 2 months ago and it's sometimes overwhelming to me that she is actively trying to intimidate me and keep me from living a normal life.
robin (they/it) 05/11/2023 7:00 AM
unsolicited advice kinda : are you interested in taking legal action ? if you make it clear you want them to stop you have grounds for stalking and can take out a restraining order, but you have to have proof and idk the laws of online stalking
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reply ^ I have gone to cops already and for the most part they literally did not care at all. They may have taken it less seriously bc of things being on social media/online, and certain things I don't have direct evidence of bc some things happened in chatrooms I have no access to (and can't screenshot or record as a result). but just to detail what happened, she doxxed me (full name, address, workplace, etc) to over a dozen people (they have since used that information to threaten and intimidate me), spread a shitton of lies about me including lies about my own sexual life, and she's made a serious effort to isolate me from as many people as possible (this includes her reaching out to people I haven't talked with since middle school). a lot of this stuff is textbook abuser behavior but when I talked w police about it they didn't really care. I would file a lawsuit if it didn't cost thousands of dollars to do so
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and a ton of this happened in march so it's just all the more worse that I still have people stalking me now
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robin (they/it) 05/11/2023 7:37 AM
@YoBecca is a lawyer if you want to see if you have some other legal options
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Friend has been in solitary for several days, she was supposed to have a prelim trial yesterday but they pushed it back a week
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robin (they/it) 05/11/2023 9:06 AM
thats upsetting
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Yeah and she was only arrested like two weeks ago so the fact they’re already having prelim is upsetting too
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Charged her with a felony on shakey legal ground, Didn’t grant her bond, left her in solitary and now they’re trying to rush a conviction for handing out flyers
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seb it/they 05/11/2023 9:15 AM
handing out flyers???
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seriously?
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Mandatory minimum five years
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robin (they/it) 05/11/2023 9:15 AM
thats so fucked
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She’s also an autistic black trans woman It’s really fucked up
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I called her like a month ago and she was talking about how excited she was to be doing some art projects and mutual aid stuff and I was gonna go down to where she lives at some point this summer to see her
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Fuck every cop, fuck every prison, fuck every judge.
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Lol in order to change my name in the dasher app I’d have to get a legal name change so all the people I deliver food to see my deadname
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robin (they/it) 05/11/2023 9:45 AM
im in my depression hole being suicidal in my best friend's signal messages again knowing this is how i got in trouble before and almost got sent to the ward
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let us know if you need anything robin
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robin (they/it) 05/11/2023 10:12 AM
cyprus is making me get out of my hole on saturday so i will probably be a bit better then
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pear (he/they) 05/11/2023 10:12 AM
Second day in a row driving an hour out for court due to a car accident and due to a major lack of organization Im gonna have to drive a third time out
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Youd figure a major city would have a working number for their court office
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Lol in order to change my name in the dasher app I’d have to get a legal name change so all the people I deliver food to see my deadname
I called dasher support, they let me change mine
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It also should let you change it in app but the app is kinda trash
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So my parents just lied to me and said I passed my exam somehow and that I got an email about what to study over the summer, I'm confused as to why they'd do that, I'm hoping it's not because they have the school site bugged to find me when I logged in, the know the department head of tech at the school
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Hayden (he/they) 05/11/2023 1:41 PM
If you are over 18 that is a crime
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For them to log in and get your grades
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Plus it's literally not even true I looked
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mystic_darkwing 05/11/2023 1:41 PM
are your parents your legal guardians
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Plus it's literally not even true I looked
ColorfulKnoll 05/11/2023 1:42 PM
It's possible they got something in the mail if you didn't change your address for the school
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They birthed me but I'm 20 years old now and moved out which I did tell them I did after I left
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If you are over 18 that is a crime
seb it/they 05/11/2023 1:56 PM
Technically ferpa is a funding thing and not an criminal thing, but yeah if the school let them log in without your permission they could lose all federal funding
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Lol in order to change my name in the dasher app I’d have to get a legal name change so all the people I deliver food to see my deadname
I don’t know if its currently a realistic option for you because I don’t know your current life situation but I’ve dealt with getting a legal name and sex marker change in SC so if you (or anyone else) is interested I may be able to offer some assistance in getting started
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I’d prefer not to be fingerprinted by sled
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Do share the resource though in case anybody else wants /needs it
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I’d prefer not to be fingerprinted by sled
1000% understandable, that whole part was indeed ridiculous
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Will try to find the stuff I used
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AsterTheDisaster 05/11/2023 4:57 PM
I'd love to learn about the process. But it seems so ridiculously expensive 😔 but it would be freaking cool to graduate under my actual name.
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/11/2023 5:39 PM
i feel so worthless without school to occupy my time, its not even my fault, my job just doesnt start until the 22nd, but anxiety doesnt care. but i can barely get out of bed and im taking sleeping meds at 4pm just so i dont have to be awake any more cw depression (edited)
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today is better than yesterday at least
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i think i poison ivy-ed myself while berry picking
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robin (they/it) 05/11/2023 6:30 PM
ketchup ^^
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mystic_darkwing 05/11/2023 6:36 PM
its so annoying (not to mention classist, racist, ect) when people treat the south like like an untouchable wasteland of conservatism. like yeah it sucks here but the way people talk especially on tiktok about the south is so strange to me
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You’re so right
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mystic_darkwing 05/11/2023 6:38 PM
like people will see a video about the south or like normal videos about southern culture and comment mmm smells like racism and stuff or hear about issues happening down here and say things like "well maybe dont vote red<3" as if the people being affected and who need help are the ones causing the harm (edited)
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its so annoying (not to mention classist, racist, ect) when people treat the south like like an untouchable wasteland of conservatism. like yeah it sucks here but the way people talk especially on tiktok about the south is so strange to me
Hayden (he/they) 05/11/2023 6:40 PM
Yeah everyone seems to forget the south has the largest proportion of Black people in the US
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Definitely makes the "everyone is stupid" comments sound different
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Or like how people will justify natural disasters or tragedies with “welp they deserve it down there”.
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Irabella (Leilah)(she/fae) 05/11/2023 6:42 PM
It's complete ignorance and elitism (edited)
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Hayden (he/they)
Yeah everyone seems to forget the south has the largest proportion of Black people in the US
puppygirl blair 05/11/2023 7:17 PM
It was a culture shock when I came up here. I thought new york had alot and I was surprised to see how diverse it is down here
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puppygirl blair
It was a culture shock when I came up here. I thought new york had alot and I was surprised to see how diverse it is down here
puppygirl blair 05/11/2023 7:17 PM
Upstate new york
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mystic_darkwing 05/12/2023 5:32 PM
just put my cat down
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Nerak1 Dave 05/12/2023 6:27 PM
So sorry. I know what it is like to lose a pet.
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darknightsoul369 05/12/2023 6:40 PM
@mystic_darkwing I’m so sorry for your loss . 😢 I can’t imagine.
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mystic_darkwing 05/12/2023 7:50 PM
thank you guys for your support
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darknightsoul369 05/12/2023 7:52 PM
Of course, pets are family.
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robin (they/it) 05/12/2023 8:06 PM
today i remembered that there are people my age who are cis . i forgot that they existed
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Nico (she/her) 05/12/2023 9:08 PM
Today has been a shitshow on so many levels I'm just gonna scream and cry
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mystic_darkwing 05/12/2023 9:08 PM
do you want to talk about it
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Nico (she/her) 05/12/2023 9:17 PM
The job I got turned out to be an mlm, my parents want to talk with me about me being trans and I'm 90% sure they're gonna try to convince me to not be trans
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Staying thr night at my parents house so we can bring my friend to the airport in the morning, my mom doesn't want to have the talk tonight, but she also doesn't want to have it early in the morning after we drop my friend off, but she wants to have it before I leave
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My dad has been very standoff-ish, he let us in the house, didn't say a word and went straight to his room to watch tv
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mystic_darkwing 05/12/2023 9:27 PM
that sounds really scary, i hope everything turns out ok for you and if not we all support you
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cade (he/him) 05/12/2023 10:24 PM
let us know if there’s anything you need 💜
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Nico (she/her) 05/13/2023 9:36 AM
My parents and I talked this morning, my mom made an effort to understand me, said she'd try to use my name and pronouns, worried about my safety as a trans woman. My dad just spewed culture war bs (transphobia, ableism) said I'm mutilating myself, transgenderism is satanic, trans and gay people are mentally ill I yelled "fuck you" at him and it was very cathartic.
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mystic_darkwing 05/13/2023 9:37 AM
if there's anything we can do to help you just let us know
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robin (they/it) 05/13/2023 9:39 AM
i bet she was glad you were there to help though
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My parents found me....
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do you need anything?
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Me or?
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U h h
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For them to go away
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James Harley 05/13/2023 6:40 PM
Do you want us to try planning again or do you need some time?
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mystic_darkwing 05/13/2023 7:03 PM
had some family over for mothers day and now im listening to my mom and uncle be transphobic
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about me
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Mother’s Day is always hellish because gender roles are ever present regardless of me being a child and not a parent, I hate hearing my deadname, I hate being seen as s son, I hate everything about how the family is gendered in every detail, my mom makes no effort to affirm anything remotely gender neutral and it’s frustrating cw dysphoria
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my toxic ex msg'd me again and its really fucking with my head. they constantly gaslit tf outta me when we were together and they're doing it again now and i just wanna finally call them on it and yell at them but when i start typing i start crying and i fucking hate it all. they "apologized" in their msg and ik i just fucking know its so they can try to get close and manipulate me again and honestly fuck them for that and everything else cw abuse mentioned, spiraling
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A-A-Ron (they/them) 05/15/2023 8:33 PM
I'm sorry jacklyn, I've been there and I know it's tough. If you do want advice at any point feel free to hit me up, but otherwise just know I'm in solidarity and I understand your predicament
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mystic_darkwing 05/15/2023 11:40 PM
if i had a nickle for everytime a youtuber i liked turned out to be a weirdo white supremacist id have god knows how many nickles but id have a new shiny one
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i really should be able to see this a mile ahead by now
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robin (they/it) 05/16/2023 9:35 AM
i want to read hate comments about myself but i cant find the nazi's social media presence :(
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robin (they/it)
i want to read hate comments about myself but i cant find the nazi's social media presence :(
robin (they/it) 05/16/2023 11:02 AM
update: i found it
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/16/2023 6:24 PM
ACAB includes restaurant people who sir me
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ACAB includes restaurant people who sir me
they're cops?
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gender police
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ColorfulKnoll 05/16/2023 9:47 PM
For the simple reason of directing more hatred too them yes
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mystic_darkwing 05/16/2023 10:16 PM
vent+ advice would actually be appreciated ive spent about an hour now trying to make a reel where its a clip of me doing something then a clip of s picture with a part of a song playing over it and none of the apps i downloaded nor instagram itself have an option to put part of a song over a picture and save that as a clip without putting music over the whole thing
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ColorfulKnoll 05/16/2023 10:20 PM
If you have a laptop it might be better to download some editing software and use that to clip audio. If you have an apple device you can clip audio use the snip tool and then deleting the parts you don't want in I think it's called movie maker? (edited)
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mystic_darkwing 05/16/2023 10:21 PM
i don't have either of those:(
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ColorfulKnoll 05/16/2023 10:21 PM
Let me take a look at some editing software and I'll see if any of them having a snipping tool
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I have a Samsung do we should have similar mobile apps
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mystic_darkwing 05/16/2023 10:24 PM
thanks
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thanks
ColorfulKnoll 05/16/2023 10:31 PM
Action director was a good one
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Try it out and let me know how it goes I'll give you a photo of what it looks like
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mystic_darkwing 05/16/2023 10:32 PM
alright thank you
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ColorfulKnoll 05/16/2023 10:32 PM
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alright thank you
ColorfulKnoll 05/16/2023 10:32 PM
No problem, part of this community is helping eachother
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mystic_darkwing 05/16/2023 10:41 PM
it worked :3
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ColorfulKnoll 05/16/2023 10:43 PM
Awesome
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robin (they/it) 05/17/2023 11:14 AM
i saw a snake 🐍
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NightOwlLuna 05/17/2023 11:15 AM
Hopefully it was a nice snake
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seb it/they 05/17/2023 3:15 PM
all my code is broken bc the prof i worked with named some arrays and floats the same thing and they all got mangled together and now i am sad
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Nico (she/her) 05/17/2023 9:47 PM
Fuck my nephews' stepmom, that is all
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seb it/they 05/18/2023 7:05 AM
Tw medical emergency my step mom had another stroke ;-;
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/18/2023 7:04 PM
cw mental health institutionalization one of the other mentors in the robotics program i teach in just called the cops on one of their students and got them comitted i am actively trying to resist the urge to throttle this mentor through my PC i am so livid holy shit
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god fucking fuck everyone
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fuck all of these fucking mentors
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go to fucking hell
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everyone's more concerned that we dont blame the mentor than supporting the kid
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im a mandatory reporter too, doesnt mean i fucking call the cops every time one of my students tells me they are depressed (edited)
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robin (they/it) 05/18/2023 7:30 PM
some teachers are really not very understanding and they think they are helping when they really aren't one of my teachers last semester made me report myself to the school mental health cops for being suicidal and then they had to like wellness check me and talk to my therapist to make sure i actually go to therapy. it puts me and my therapist in a weird situation where we have to be on guard and like gaslight the school into not sending me into the ward
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/18/2023 7:31 PM
i dont know how anyone thinks that this is helpful
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robin (they/it) 05/18/2023 7:33 PM
its an easy way to make it not their problem anymore
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/18/2023 7:33 PM
yeah
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mentor cant be bothered to actually do the work and check on the student themselves or talk to family (edited)
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straight to the nuclear fucking option
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robin (they/it) 05/18/2023 7:36 PM
yeah easiest way to know if someone is getting the help they need is to ask them
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acab includes mental health cops and teachers who call them on students
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ColorfulKnoll 05/18/2023 9:14 PM
I hate the medical industry 151 dollars just for a new patient intake
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With insurance
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mystic_darkwing 05/18/2023 10:03 PM
cw for mental health issues having a bpd episode for the first time in months, forgot how much this shit sucks
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i havent been feeling great these last week and i dont know why (edited)
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they)
cw mental health institutionalization one of the other mentors in the robotics program i teach in just called the cops on one of their students and got them comitted i am actively trying to resist the urge to throttle this mentor through my PC i am so livid holy shit
AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/19/2023 9:56 AM
the student is home and OK
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robin (they/it) 05/19/2023 10:01 AM
yay !
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joestarryeyed 05/19/2023 10:21 AM
sometimes I feel like the world is on my shoulders. like ... there's no one to help carry the weight. there's no one I can rely on. I don't WANT to be the SCDP LGBT Caucus Chairman! I just want to stay at home and play Legend of Zelda!! But there was and IS no one else who WANTS IT! There were only 4 other eligible people at the reorganization and NO ONE spoke up for a good solid minute... so I self-nominated. Even though I DON'T. WANT. IT. I don't want the responsibility I have SO MUCH else going on in my life, but... who else will or CAN advocate for the betterment of -not just LGBTQ people- but EVERYONE Who ELSE understands how integrated white supremacy is with EVERYTHING in our world that ALSO understands what it means to be queer and trans AND understands what it means to be poor and almost homeless AND has the privilege of time AND has the drive to want to make the change AND can't be seduced by power? WHO ELSE IS THERE?? AND WHO CAN I RELY ON?? even close friends have shown that they can't be bothered... There isn't anyone... no matter where I look and ... I just have to accept it. I understand that there are a variety of reason why even LGBTQ people don't want to participate (ex. disillusionment, burnout, etc). I get it. I'll just have to accept what I can get and make it work.... (If you want to offer advice or join to help break the wheel of the democratic party, my dms are open) (edited)
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/19/2023 7:27 PM
my employer wants to delay my start date because the background check is taking so long
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great
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I was so tired I slept in on the trip free day and now everyone is gone so I feel like a loser but I was literally so achey I could not go
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AthenaTheCommie (she/they) 05/20/2023 2:16 PM
Oh hell yeah half my prescription meds are gonna show on this drug test and flag positive i cant wait for another weeks delay
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mystic_darkwing 05/20/2023 2:20 PM
my mom is throwing a tantrum because her table got wet
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